To the people who rejected us: thank you!!!

We have all experienced rejections by people that we thought they were the “one”. As painful as it might seem initially, our friends are there to remind us that everything happens for a reason and someone else is out there for us. It is comforting to have that “wise” piece of advice, but it doesn’t seem to help us feel better and we think we will not get over it.

Deleting messages with that “one” person, swearing every time we hear their names being mentioned, smashing things while we cry our eyes out, watching movies with the most dramatic plot (to cry even more and have an extra excuse for it), drinking our sorrows etc. However, it’s a situation we have all been through and luckily... survived!!!

With different defensive mechanisms of psychological nature, we manage to get past that person. Denial, that this person existed in our lives because we cannot have been so fool and naive to not be considered by them as the “one” in the same way that we valued that person in our life. The ego is hurt and we try to recover by any possible way more suitable to us. For some of us, by meeting new people through friends’ company, joining groups to get to meet the ones with mutual interests and hobbies, starting an activity that we have been postponing for a long time, going for trips and getting away on the weekends to new destinations that we have longed to be there for ages.

Consequently, we begin to like our lives again. We get to know people that remind us that we are special and unique the way we are. Through the activities, we boost our systems with positive energy and positive and lively vibes by enjoying doing them. Wondering, why all this time we have wasted our time not doing whatever we love/like, because we were too focused on somebody who was not the “one”. But in fact, it is not a waste on time, since we experienced something with them that apart from the pain, gave us a lesson too. Never be so focused on someone in a way that makes us lose ourselves and our personalities. That person, intentionally, or unintentionally in this case, did as great good actually..!! Taught us how have ourselves as “the one”.

We start to value ourselves more because we realize that it wasn’t our fault that we got rejected, it was just not meant to be. That doesn’t mean that the person is bad or anything (or all the swear words we used above to address them..!), just not the “right” for us. By trying to get over that person though, we give ourselves another chance to take a deeper look at our inner selves and rediscover our complex personality and the reasons behind our reaction to that situation. The endoscopy helps us see our character with a cleaner view this time. We know better where to look not to satisfy ourselves and feel good about us again, because we found that piece of our character again and we reconnected it to our personality. We have become more immune for any future similar “troubles”. Not that it’s bad to get to another “trouble”, because simply, this is life...! It’s just that we are a bit wiser and a bit more cautious now. But much stronger, since we revalued ourselves!

So, cheers to you all people who rejected us. Without your help, we might have still been kind of lost and too much mentally dependent on you and forgot to look after ourselves. Cheers for the lesson you gave us, and the new opportunities that we discovered through our pain and tears. For helping us find slowly our “one” who is with us always. Ourselves!!!

You will never be forgotten!!!

(Raising a glass) 🥂