
Before the move...
I lived in a expensive neighborhood in a wealthy Northern Virginia County. I had a roommate whom at the time was a government employee, a bachelor that made 90k a year. What about Me? I had changed jobs a bit. At the time I believe I worked at a warehouse for 8 hrs picked my son up from his current day care went home for a hour to sleep and then went back to work for 5 hrs at night to valet peoples garbage from big apartment complexes.
Now mind you this was after a rather rough patch for myself and my family. I was pushing to get us out of debt and moving towards the goal of owning our own home. Something we had been wanting when we found out we were going to become parents. I met an old friend of my husbands back from the day when he used to party heavily. At first I liked and fell for her charms.
She was positive and bubbly and at the time we had met. She was in the process of moving back in with her folks after leaving her abusive husband. Man was that story ever so wrong. Eventually she had to drive back across the country to go to court over custody of their 2 kids. She kept us posted on her situation and after a very abrasive ordeal with our current roommate I decided why not and offered to move out to help her with the kids and paying rent. I can get a job out there easy I thought.
Things were not very smooth sailing as I had hoped.
My mother in law offered to ride with my on my cross country drive. So I left Virginia about the 3rd week of December to change my life. I stayed with family in Ohio my first night on the road. We exchanged gifts because we wouldn't be able to see them for Christmas that year. My son was spoiled with goodies. I wasn't really sure where they were going to fit in my full loaded Prius to be honest but I made it work.
Now I had bought a used Prius got the HV battery redone after weeks of driving on a bad battery. My troubles with my car didn't end there. Little did I know that my Prius was burning oil very quickly. The car engine stalled out on a major highway stretch just outside of Laramie Wyoming. Stranded for 3 days. My mother in law footed the bill for a rental car and we continued onward.
It took me much longer to find work then I was expecting. I eventually took a job as a mobile masseur which definitely had awkward moments of being propositioned by the clients. It isn't really worth the money if you don't live close to the city. 45 days passed and finally I had my family back together. The personalities between my new roommate and I didn't mesh well. I secured my CDL and was driving for the local Bus in this small town I moved to.
Things calmed down a little. That was until roomie decided to hop back on the party wagon. So began the cycle of fighting and making back up. I tired to convince my husband for us to get our own place as the lease was ending for our roomies divorce agreement. I lost that battle hard. We moved into the big city Our families having to share a 3 bed 2 bath apt for about $1600 a month.
I kept pushing and looking for work that paid more than what I was making at the time of driving the bus. I knew that I was not going to continue putting my family through someone else's crap. Roomie couldn't hold down a job and constantly took her custody agreement frustrations out on us. The kids couldn't get along. The whole situation was just a huge toxic mess. Cue the new boyfriend. Eventually they wanted him to move in so he could help pay rent. Sure why not take the money? But it just didn't sit well with me.
I said to ask me again in two weeks. I had started a brand new job and the hours and people just added to my stress. I think I've switched between overnights and day shift jobs a handful of times now that i think about it. Once they both started to openly do cocaine out in the living room I put my foot down. Things were just a shit show.
They eventually moved all their things out of their bed room and went out to the boonies to live with the boyfriends family. Good riddance I say! I think if things has continued someone would have gotten shot. Life for my family begins to return to normal. Well that was until the COVID-19 outbreak.
Life currently feels like its on a hard pause.
Even though I feel like this year and last has been horrible. I'm staying optimistic that things will continue to drive in a positive force. We are slowly becoming apart of our little community. We slowly keep meeting our goals quietly moving towards that place we can call our home. My advice for you?
Dont give up push until the pain becomes numb





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