The most painful thing in life is to torture yourself

The one you can't get has become an obsession, the one you've lost has become a regret, and once you're deep in it, it's hard to have a future to speak of.

Sometimes people are prone to foolishness, thinking that they can make up for their obsessions and regrets through their efforts, not knowing that when everything is in the past, refusing to let go will only make their lives more painful.

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Many times, you are what mentality, is what life is.

Most of the "can't let go" in life, but they are torturing themselves.

When you learn to face the lack of openness and reconciliation with the past self will find that there is nothing to live through.

1、What you can't let go of, will eventually become the past

Kazuo Inamori once said: "The biggest prison in the world is the human heart. Can not walk away from their obsessions, to where they are prisoners."

Only when you let go of your obsessions can you have a new start.

Many times, what you think you can't let go of is just an obsession, as long as the courage to take the first step, you will find nothing to let go of.

Even if you can't get over things at the time, the passage of time will become a thing of the past.

At that time, the inability to pass is not enough personal ability, but as long as there is motivation, and efforts to improve themselves, can not pass will eventually become a thing of the past.

Therefore, the obsession is too heavy to walk out of, the final torture is their own, rather than delay their development because of the past, rather than learn to put down the obsession, let the obsession become the past.

Do people, only really learn to put down, to have a new start, rely on their efforts to improve themselves, in the witness of time, so that the trials and tribulations that once could not pass, become a stepping stone in life one after another?

2、Accept the shortcomings and reconcile with yourself

People live a life, there will be more or less one or two things that make people feel sorry.

At that time did not feel how, but with the aggravation of life is not as good, the more you feel that if you can start over, perhaps there will be a different direction in life.

But forget that there is no pill for regret in life, and dwelling on the regrets of the past will only make it more difficult for you to get out.

However, life still has to go on, no one can always protect anyone, your fantasy of a life without regrets will eventually be broken by the cruelty of reality, and then there will only be more regrets.

Only by learning to accept regrets and reconciling with your past self can you get yourself out of the past regrets.

When regrets have become a reality, it is not helpful to think about it, but rather learn to look forward, from the regrets to see another possibility in life, in the acceptance of regrets at the same time, to move forward to achieve a better self.

There is nothing to let go of, the past is the past, can not let go, and will only torture themselves.

3、Laugh at life, live your own life

In life, some things at the time felt unable to pass, and then their own ability to improve, and then look back but will feel nothing to pass.

After all, with time, people will always grow and is no longer their past self.

So, in the face of the past, there is no need to feel unforgettable, there is time to dwell on the past, it is better to focus on the future, smile in the face of life's trials and tribulations, big or small, in the trials and tribulations to forge a better version of themselves.

Many times, when you become more powerful, the past will become a blur.

The so-called can't let go, sometimes more like to their own "bad mix" to find excuses, think that today's misfortune is the original regret made, but do not know how to reflect on where they are wrong.

As long as you do not realize where you are wrong, you will repeat the same regrets infinitely, even if there is a chance to start over, it will only add more regrets.

Instead of being obsessed with the past, you should learn to let go of it, face the gains and losses in life openly, and cultivate a better you from the past.