The Gym vs. the Meal

The person you need to build trust with most: Yourself

Have you ever had this experience?

One night, I made up my mind to go to the gym the next day, but in the morning, I started to convince myself: "I'm a little tired today, so I'll go the day after tomorrow." As a result, I didn't go for the whole week.

Or, you had planned to attend a class, but it rained a little and you decided not to go.

But the strange thing is, why do I procrastinate about going to the gym, but never about eating a delicious meal?

At these times, you are not "just" giving up an exercise or a class, but you are destroying your own trust in yourself.

Imagine if you have an avatar, and every time you agree to go to the gym with him, you change your mind at the last minute, or go back on your word when you encounter a small situation, making this avatar feel fooled again and again. Over time, will he still believe what you say?

We often think that trust is built on interpersonal relationships, but in fact, the most fundamental trust is to keep your word.

When you commit yourself to doing something and then actually do it, you build trust in yourself. On the contrary, every time you "make excuses" not to do something, you are weakening your trust in yourself, and this habit will subtly affect your self-confidence, self-discipline, and even your expectations for the future.

Therefore, the trust that should be established most is not in others, but in yourself.

Why should we build trust in ourselves?

Make yourself more confident, and you will like yourself more

Doing what you say will make you more confident in yourself, and you will no longer hesitate when making decisions. You will like yourself more unconsciously.

Reduce internal friction and self-doubt

No longer be torn between internal struggles over “should I do it” or not, just do what you want to do and save yourself a lot of time worrying about it.

Easier to achieve goals

If you keep your promises to yourself, things will naturally go more smoothly and your goals will be achieved one by one.

Attract better opportunities and connections

If you are self-disciplined and reliable, others will be more willing to trust you, and opportunities and resources will naturally come to you.

How to build trust in yourself

Start small and don’t put too much pressure on yourself all at once

Don’t ask yourself to exercise for an hour every day at the beginning. Start with five minutes a day. Making sure you can do it is more important than anything else.

Think carefully before you commit; don’t make impulsive promises to yourself.

Don’t make too many promises to yourself that you can’t keep. Make sure every plan is feasible so that you don’t let yourself down again and again.

Don’t wait for the perfect time, start now.

When you want to procrastinate, ask yourself: "If I don't do it now, am I being unfaithful to myself?" Then take action.

Train yourself to make decisions quickly and stop hesitating.

Example: “Want to go to the gym?” → “Go!” → “Go out!”

Thinking too much will only make you start making excuses. If you make a decision directly, you will be more motivated to take action.

Be true to yourself, and life will become simpler!

Don’t let yourself get stuck in the “I’ll wait until tomorrow” cycle! From now on, try your best to fulfill what you promised yourself, and you will find that life will be much smoother.

You've clearly given this a lot of thought, and your insights are spot on. Building that internal trust is foundational for so much else in our lives.

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