Take The High Road

Okay, I'm going to admit that emotional control is not one of my strong points. It's one of the reasons why I have become so active and engaged in personal development and mindset training, over these past few years, as I know I need to continue working on better controlling my emotions. I still lack that mental strength to control my emotions when someone gets under my skin, like most of us do. It's hard to just sit back and allow someone to throw a heap of unwarranted criticism or verbal abuse at us, without responding in frustration and defending ourselves. We listen to some things they say, or we hear gossip they spread about us, or we read certain comments they write on social media, and it annoys us, because we know it's untrue and unfair. Naturally, we arc up, respond, and become defensive. We stand up for ourselves, and that's fine, but we too often forget that those who love to criticize, judge, ridicule, mock, and attempt to emotionally hurt us, are in fact dealing with mental scars of their own. Because their life is unfulfilling, unsatisfying, miserable, and void of success, they seek an outlet to take out their frustrations, and that can quite often be us. The problem with them is they lack the willpower, motivation, and courage, to pursue their own goals, to create a life of their desire, and instead spend their time whinging and complaining about how life is so unfair, blaming other people or circumstances for their unhappiness in life. In summary, these people are just brimming with negativity, and when someone is constantly negative, they are ultimately toxic to others, especially you and I!

Okay, so just because someone has mental scars of their own, and are too lazy in being accountable to create a life to their own desire, doesn't give them the right to criticize or be nasty towards us, right? You and I both know that it shouldn't, however we cannot control the behavior and attitude of others. We have no control over their mindset! We can always help and encourage others, but at the end of the day, each individual is accountable for their own mindset, how they behave, what decisions they make, and what actions they take. So what does that mean then, do we just stand there and accept their criticism and nastiness? Another fact we need to understand about toxic people is they love to bait others. They are filled with anger, filled with frustration, filled with unhappiness, even filled with hatred, and they want to release all this negativity from inside of them, and the way in which they do that, is they look for a heated argument with someone else. They will make comments that are designed to encourage a reaction, because they want that other person to respond in anger also, so they can continue fighting back. They aim for the heart of the other person, attacking them with something they know is personal and will cause an emotional reaction. They do it because they don't want to see the other person successful or happy. If they can't be happy and successful themselves, then they don't want anyone else to be either. It sounds silly, but sadly, that's how many people operate in life. As hard as it may be to resist, the best way to counterattack a toxic person and their negative comments, is to not react. A toxic person's weak point is when someone fails to respond or react, or when their comments are proving to be ineffective, and best of all, when the person being criticized and verbally abused remains in a happy and positive mindset. It drives them wild. They will continue trying to bait and progress the argument, before finally giving up, and walking away even more angry and frustrated. They failed to get the desired result they were after, so they then go about seeking out another outlet to unload their negative trash basically.

It takes someone of great character, great mental strength, and great resistance, to not be drawn into a reaction or response from toxic and negative people. Mastering emotional control is one of the hardest things we could ever do in life, because our natural instinct is to defend ourselves, and to take offence at what comments are being said about us, especially when we know they are unjust and untrue. As hard as it may be though, it's for our own benefit that we avoid being drawn into the temptation of retaliation. We need to be honest here, what do we actually achieve when we do react and engage in an argument with someone who is toxic? It's not as if they are going to back down, apologize, and respect our feelings. They want to get under our skin, and they want us to sink to their level, proving that we aren't really someone of greatness. They want to drag us down into their pool of negativity, and they won't hold back in saying anything that they know will create frustration and anger within us. The only result from responding, reacting, and engaging in an argument with a toxic person, is that we allow them to transition our mindset from positive to negative. Perhaps our response also ends up leading us to say things we only end up regretting. In summary, nothing good comes out of responding. The best thing to do is remain calm and silent, disengage, and even better, walk away. We need to prove to, not only that toxic person, but also to ourselves, that we are not going to reduce ourselves to their level, and instead, we are going to take the high road. We are going to rise above their negativity and criticism, knowing full well that they are only acting the way they are, because they are unhappy and unsatisfied with their own life, and knowing that we will only be dragging ourselves into negative mindset territory also. It's not about feeling they are winning an argument, or they are getting away with being able to verbally abuse and criticize us scot-free, because the ultimate response to such people is to walk away and show them how happy, successful, and fulfilling, our life actually is. The universe provides the relevant justice to them.

From today, start working on strengthening your mindset and emotional control. Engage in personal development and mindset training programs to assist you to be able to better handle various situations and people that have the potential to transition your mindset from positive to negative. Remain focused on your goals, continue practicing gratitude, and be a role model for decent values and behaviors. Prove to others that you aren't going to be sucked in to their toxic games, and that you are always going to take the high road in life, fully aware that by doing so, you are setting yourself up for a future blessed with happiness, success, and satisfaction. Accept criticism and feedback from those who are proven successful, as it's vital we are still being coached for success, but never accept criticism and feedback from those who have achieved nothing, and those who are toxic. Trust me, from experience I know that responding in frustration and anger only makes the situation worse for ourselves, and only ends up hurting us. Be the bigger person!

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