Take control of your fear.

Why are you allowing fear to be a part of your daily/life goals decision making?

Do you know how much this is negatively impacting your life?

What triggers Amygdala (Threat stimulus) even when you aren’t in immediate danger?

This paralysis manifests itself in all of us in the form of fear. Fear stops us from moving forward, from letting go and taking risks. Fear is like the birdcage, keeping us inside, dictating what we should do and what is or isn’t allowed. It controls our being.

There are three types of fears; fear of failure, fear of pain and fear of now.

Fear of failure can be best articulated in being afraid of never having what it is that we want, or attaining what we want and not being satisfied, not knowing how to accept what we have asked for, and move into that place of pure bliss.

Fear of pain is the hurt that resurfaces from our past, the samscara that prevents us from moving towards attaining our goal. It is the disappointment we have endured and the loneliness we felt during those times, to staying in the wrong situation out of a belief of scarcity. It's the belief that if you don’t jump on the idea or hold onto the object of desire, it will never come again.

Fear of now comes from the belief that you are not enough. You don’t allow yourself to take the next step because on the subconscious level you believe you are not enough. That little voice that chaters all the time telling you aren’t there yet, you don’t have it, you're not going to aspire to what it is that you wanted to aspire to.

You know that feeling when you’re determined to do something, and you’re really excited about it – but you’re kinda scared at the same time – and you’re ready to take action, but you keep finding excuses to delay actually starting because of fear?

Maybe it’s because you’re:

Comparing yourself to other people

Telling yourself that it might not work

Not confident about what you know

Afraid of what other people will think or say about you

Wondering if anyone will value what you have to say

Some may not realize it but this is what they're bringing into their day to day life and it is stopping them from moving forward with their goals or wants in life. TAKE THE ACTION. Don’t allow yourself to worry if you will succeed yet or not because that's not something you will ever be able to see before it happens. You have got to give yourself the confidence you deserve with knowing what you can bring to the table and who you are with your talents and drive towards whatever it may be you want to succeed in.

Trying to get over this mindset with fear is a hard one.. Everything inside you tells you it's bad and makes your flight or fight response kick in. This is another time where you must not allow yourself to choose flight. And keep in mind I’m not talking about being in immediate danger, I'm talking about the 3 fears previously mentioned.

Try telling yourself kind and encouraging words, Take baby steps. Nobody expects you to jump head first into the water that is ahead of you. Take the small steps you need in order to overcome what fear is telling you. Stop worrying about everybody else and everything else as well. Help your mind relax and see that no matter what happens it’s going to be okay because at the end of the day with failure or success it's going to be and in order to even get to where you want to be there is going to be failure. At time there’s will be more failure and you’re going to be scared, probably thinking that you made the wrong choice and you want to quit while you’re ahead but that's where you need to overcome That fear and help yourself accept that that is all normal and it is going to get you closer and closer to your goals with each experience. You can take a step back and learn what to do differently for next time, You can change something that you then see isn’t working or you can simply push even harder if the lack of drive is there. As long as you are moving forward in life manning these baby steps you will succeed no matter what.

YOUR FEAR DOES NOT DEFINE YOU OR CONTROL YOU.

Pro tip:Sticky notes around where you usually are. Leave yourself encouraging words. Set reminders in your phone calendar if you need to reminding yourself to give ⅖ mins of your time to repeating kind words to yourself. You will be surprised how much this will help you move forward.

-Marissa Knappert