self help
Self help, because you are your greatest asset.
Good Enough
Have you ever felt like you've been rejected or treated unfairly by friends, (-ex) boyfriend/girlfriends, family, co-workers etc? Yeah, well you're not alone. Let me tell you a story about myself. I worked as a lab assistant for a year. I thought I had gotten a good job because it was my very first real full-time job, I felt blessed. As I was working there for a couple of months, I started to notice that I was being treated differently. The technicians felt better than the lab assistants and treated us like we were slaves. They were rude as they demanded tasks from us. I started to get fed up with how my White co-workers were snobby towards me specifically. I would tell my supervisor about it and she always gave the excuse of them having a bad day. A bad day? I have lots of bad days and I smiled and treated everyone equally with respect. My supervisor loved playing favorites and gave them all the possible excuses in the world. My supervisor never said good morning to me in the mornings, but would say good morning to others. She would walk right past me and not even acknowledge my presence. Sometimes she would even avoid giving me any sort of contact. Every time she would say something to me was when she was complaining about what I did or if I made a simple mistake. So when she would talk to me, I got anxiety because I was afraid of doing something wrong. She wasn’t encouraging or supportive and I dreaded talking to her. Later on, I noticed that a White male co-worker did his rounds of greeting everyone… except me! I thought maybe it’s because he thinks I’m busy. Nope! I would talk to another co-worker and he would rudely interrupt me in mid-sentence just to say hello and ask how they are doing, right in front of me like I wasn’t there. I wanted to say something to him every single time, but I couldn’t—I was too scared because he could turn it around to make it seem like I have the problem. Then I would get the blame or be seen as the aggressor and I could lose my job. I didn’t want to chance it, so I just let it happen and faked being happy at this company. I would smile, treat everyone nicely, and was friendly as I could possibly be. I held my anger, frustration, depression, and sadness all inside me and I felt like I was going to explode. I was miserable working at this place and the people there didn't make it any better for me. On top of that, I was living with my ex-boyfriend (who I was still in love with at the time) with whom I have a child with and he treated me like crap! When I would arrive to his house after work, I would cry before I got out of my car. I was emotionally and physically drained from work, from my peers, my ex, and top of that being a mother to my two-year-old. My ex would belittle me all the time to where I felt like everything I did was wrong. He would constantly make me feel like I wasn’t normal. And I supported him and was constantly doing things for him that he was lazy to do for himself. I will go into more detail about my toxic relationship in another post someday, but all I'll say is there are so many people who feel like they don't belong. Never treat someone bad because you don't know what their life is like personally. Showing someone a little kindness could make someone happy; just by saying "Hello" or "Good morning," just to let them know they are recognized. Smiling as you walk past someone could make someone's day. I value doing acts of kindness while I go out because when I was suffering from work and my ex, the people who were nice to me helped me forget that people disliked me for odd reasons.
By Ameenah M.8 years ago in Motivation
5 Things I Learned Before 20
We all know the big 2 0 is an accomplishment in itself. Or so it seems… 20 is when you are supposed to have all of your 'ish' together. You are supposed to know and already be doing something with your life; whether it be finishing up college, getting into a serious relationship, or starting an exciting new career. I want to say to all of the 20-somethings and the just now adults:
By Rebekah Battle8 years ago in Motivation
Stop Saying Sorry
As all of you know I've been on a journey to find out who I am. However, to understand who I am I need to understand my past. This means that I've been taking a long, hard, look at my life and at myself. I've realized that I've always apologized for things that I shouldn't be apologizing for. I've been saying sorry for things that I genuinely don't want to do, or for sticking up for myself. I never understood why I do this but honestly, I don't want to know. Recently, I've decided I won't say sorry. I won't say sorry for saying/doing something that I wholeheartedly feel is right. I'm me; I'm quirky, weird, crazy, clumsy, funny, quiet, etc.
By Em8 years ago in Motivation
Beginning the Change from Self Deprecation to Understanding and Removal of Negative Ideology
I often wondered what it would take to remove the negative self and place the positive self above it, without ego. It is harder than one can understand. Often, people suggest that money can buy happiness because with a vast array of riches, you can embark on a quest to buy anything that will make you happy. Here is the underlying problem: we are being lied to.
By Aaron Wraith8 years ago in Motivation
Self Discovery
Having experienced some rather intense mind, body, and spirit events personally in my life recently, I thought why not write about them and share my personal growth with people. If what has happened to me at my age, with my life history, can encourage even one person to look differently at life itself, then I will have achieved something.
By Lucy Laverty8 years ago in Motivation
A Peek Inside
I am on this mission to help those that don’t suffer from depression to get a glimpse inside as well as to remind those that do suffer from depression that they aren’t alone. My husband and quite a few of my friends and family have no context to my moods or behavior as they have never suffered from depression.
By Harlie Wood8 years ago in Motivation
At the Top of the Stairs
At the Top of the Stairs It’s midnight. I should be in bed, but I’m not. I never am now. Thoughts are always consuming my mind during the night. No one is home. I sit at the top of the stairs surrounded by empty bedrooms—five, to be exact. One of them is mine, although I don’t spend much time in it. Darkness is all that is present. No lights are on. No one is laughing or arguing. Everything is silent. A house that once held seven people now only holds me for the night. My dad is out of town and no one else lives here. I sit at the top of the stairs. Memories flood my mind: my older sister moving out and going all the way to Athens, my oldest brother moving to Roswell, my little sister living with my mom in a different house, my other brother becoming a freshman in college and now leaving me just like the rest, my parents divorcing, my empty house, my bad grades, my poor decisions, my failures. I cry. I miss my family. I don’t like being alone. I hate failing.
By Brandi Jo8 years ago in Motivation
Learning to Love You
Something I personally struggle with A LOT, this loving yourself thing has never been a strong point of mine growing up. Instead it was easier to blame myself for everything that went wrong, tell myself it is all I deserved or maybe it was some kind of punishment. I convinced myself that happiness and good luck just weren't meant to be part of my life and I was just going to have to accept that. I mean, why would someone like me be able to have those things? Why would anyone love someone like me? Accept someone like me? Love me for who I was? More importantly, I couldn't change it, could I?
By Toni-Marie Gallagher8 years ago in Motivation
Be the You, You Want
We all have those moments where we feel like our lives' are off-course. We all have moments of social anxiety and feeling defeated. Sometimes these feelings come and go. Other times, they stick around; like pesky little flies buzzing around our thoughts; making it difficult for us to go to social gatherings (or even the grocery store), cause us to feel sluggish and fatigued, and keep us in an overall cloud of disappointment and 'funk'.
By Sierra I8 years ago in Motivation
Fortune Cookie
“The more you know, the less you need to say.” The intellectual experience is definitely one of the most awesome experiences of life thus far. The more we learn, the more we see with the metaphorical third eye, the intellect. I have come to a place currently where I can see things, the minute details and the multiple possibilities. It is an overwhelming experience. With the abnormally numerous acute and clear thoughts that occur in the mind every day, more channels of thought open up to the mind, more perspectives. The getting lost in thought has never been a more intense experience than what I am experiencing these days. At the end of one of these ‘intense thought sessions,’ I am left feeling as if I have just sprinted a marathon. It’s exhilarating. At the risk of sounding even more dramatic, it’s as if I can feel the contours of my psyche changing with these in-depth thoughts which have a powerful connection with the belief system that lives in the mind. It’s chaotic. In the midst of all this chaos, I have managed to hold on to only a few things in life which are genuinely, universally important.
By Diviesh B8 years ago in Motivation
Motive-ational
I have a motive here. It is simply to make you feel your absolute best when you are finished reading this. I hope that by my words your entire perspective on yourself and the life that is going on around you has changed drastically for the better. You see, I know all too well what it's like to just feel like you're not going to make it. I know what it feels like to put all your effort into the day, working, taking care of the kids, grocery shopping, and fitting in time for the husband or wife after making supper. Finally you crash into bed exhausted only to have the stresses of what tomorrow will bring haunt your dreams at night.
By Christina Marie Martin8 years ago in Motivation
