self help
Self help, because you are your greatest asset.
Giving Life the Bitch Stare
One of the things I can’t stand is how life has a way of slapping you in the face and then leaving you with the red mark and agonizing pain. Lately, life has been slapping me in the face, and I am not sure why. In my opinion, life slaps me in the face when I set my mind on something and it doesn’t work out or when I swear to start my day off positive and BAM! Something annoying and unnecessary happens. When these different things happen, I want to give life the bitch stare; I want to look at my life and say, "Come on now, give me a break because you’re doing the most and I am at my breaking point." I often have these moments because I realize that I am not in a position in my life that I want to be in, and for some reason, life keeps on going no matter what. I want to give life the bitch stare when it takes a toll on people that are close to me, mainly when their life moments affect my life moments. For example, my husband is going through a lot right now, and if anyone hears his story, you would honestly think that life is purposely screwing him over. My husband and I are a team, so we are going to get through these things together, but damn can we get a break for just a moment? Today I found myself just sitting inside the house all day because it was just way too hot to go outside. A part of me wanted to take the risk and go out with the kids anyway, but instead of doing that I stayed in the house and thought to myself, "Why is my life so dull right now?" This moment made me want to give life the bitch stare because I wanted to be closer to my family, which ended up leading me to the state of Georgia at the beginning of summer; so, of course, it was going to be crazy hot outside. Life has been kicking my ass so bad lately because I don’t have any control of it and I am not sure when I finally will. I want to scream at my life and tell it, "Please be patient." Finally, I want to scrunch up my face, roll my eyes, and roll my neck as I give my life the final bitch stare, hoping that it takes the hint and straightens itself out.
By Maelyn Jeffers7 years ago in Motivation
Self-Care Is Not Selfish
It was 5:30 AM and I has snoozed my alarm 3 times already. I rolled out of bed and started strategically planning how I was going to get my four children up without having to deal with backlash. Normally I could take several rounds of the lights on lights off game, or my daughter waking up and then going in the bathroom and falling to sleep on the bathroom rug. I just didn't have the energy today, I was truly tired. Every morning was a miracle, getting four people not including myself fed watered and in four separate locations and still managing to get my ass in my seat at work by 8:30. I had a doctor's appointment that day before work. I can remember feeling anxious about all the work that was waiting for me at my job, while sitting in the doctor's office waiting for my results. I could never just be in the moment, I was always stressing about work, bills, dinner, my son's behavior in school. Here I was waiting for results that could be life changing, and I was thinking about everybody but myself.
By Naomi Anaya7 years ago in Motivation
Overcome Self-limiting Beliefs in Less Than 10 Minutes
Do you have self doubt that has blocked certain blessings from your life that you want to change? In particular, we all have certain beliefs in our mind that hold us back from living our best lives. No one is really excluded. Certain beliefs about love, money, career, and marriage shape our adulthood. To keep things simple let’s call all of these things ‘limiting beliefs.’
By Silena Le Beau7 years ago in Motivation
Accepting Your Flaws
Everyone at some point in their life has disliked or even hated some parts of their bodies—except if you think extremely highly of yourself and have always thought you were perfect, then cheers to you. It may have started in your early days, or in your 20s, or much later in your life. With me it was my skin, my hair, and my teeth; it seems like a lot of stuff to dislike about yourself, and it is. It was not the color of my skin per se, it was what happened to it. When I was about four or five years old, I got into a home accident and I was burnt by some hot beans. When I tell people this, they think it’s weird. But you can get burnt by anything hot, it’s the temperature that counts. My aunt was making some delicious porridge beans, and my clumsy self stumbled into the place making a fuss about hot chocolate—I loved it so much then, I had it every night. In an effort to get me out of the kitchen, I mistakenly hit it and fell, and the whole thing came tumbling down. I can’t remember the pain, but I know I was in a lot of pain. I believe my aunt poured water on me, which made it worse—some research says that works sometimes. Honestly, I don’t know, I'm not a medical person, I just know it made it worse. My parents weren't around so my neighbors had to take me to the hospital. I remember it so well: There were a lot of people in the car, it was a family, so the husband in the driver's seat, the wife in the passenger's seat carrying me, their daughter in the backseat, and there were others in the backseat—I can’t remember who they were (I guess not so well now, Chimdi). I remember their daughter crying because we were close friends. I looked at her wondering why she was crying so much when I was the one in pain, I wasn’t even crying that hard 😀 ha... not for long, because I turned and I looked at myself and I started screaming, again, because my skin was peeling. I wasn’t in that much pain, it was the fact that my skin was peeling that made me cry. I’m actually laughing writing this, but that’s why time heals.
By Chimdi Chime7 years ago in Motivation
Affirmations
We underestimate ourselves. We live in a society that conditions us to believe in something greater than ourselves. Sometimes it has an effect to believe in something bigger than us. It can give us hope. Sometimes we can feel so clouded with everything around us it can send a ripple through our minds that can make us feel defeated. It can be hard to discern the truth.
By Karina Nistal7 years ago in Motivation
Motivation vs. Self-Discipline: Which Is the Key to Habit Formation?
The only thing you have to do is install it and follow the instructions. Or at least that’s how I thought it worked. Surprisingly, the first habit that the app proposed to create was… drinking a glass of water every morning. That seemed easy enough. To motivate me, the app was giving random facts about how the human body needs water to function. (By the way, do you know that it’s possible to lose weight while sleeping?)
By Lucy Benton7 years ago in Motivation
17 Self Discovery Journal Prompts
Honestly, if I kept every journal I've ever filled, it would probably be enough to fill a decent-sized closet. I've always kept one, I feel incomplete without something to write in. I want you to do me a favor, whether you decide to do this in a journal, on your phone, or on a loose leaf piece of paper, whether you do these daily, or all in one shot, PLEASE keep it, and look at it AT LEAST once a month. In that twelfth month do another round of these questions, and compare. Did any answers change? For better or worse?
By bxtchmandz7 years ago in Motivation
