healing
How to heal fully and properly.
Swan Song
2020 was a rough year for the world, but for my family, 2021 was even harder. In February, my closest aunt and my last surviving grandparent both ended up in the hospital on the same day for completely different afflictions, and they both passed away within a week of each other.
By Sarah Taylor5 years ago in Motivation
Forgiveness
Do you ever feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders? Like no matter what you do, you still feel this urge to explode? Then maybe it’s time to let go of those old grudges. When a person wrongs you, you may not notice it immediately, but if you don’t forgive them, it will take a toll on you! I know there’s a few people that took a while for me to work on forgiving, and at times, I have to remind myself that I have already forgiven them and myself. Especially living in a small town, where you see and hear about people constantly.
By Hailey Alexandria Baldwin5 years ago in Motivation
When You Have Lost All Hope Part 1
Ever been in a point or place in your life, where you feel totally lost and alone? Feel like your the only one going through what you are? You feel like no one you know understands you or what your feeling, because is appears they are living these "perfect" lives. I have learned in my experience that no one lives these "perfect" lives that we think. Everyone is dealing with something and just putting up an appearance to make it seem that everything is "perfect". In fact the "perfect families" are actually not all that they appear to be and tend to actually be very unhappy on the inside, not showing it to the world. In 2013, I thought that I finally was living the "perfect life", with the "perfect family" . I had a husband, a 5 years old daughter, a nice house we were renting in a nice neighborhood, a nice family car and the ideal Store Manager job. I thought that things couldn't be better than what I had. Everyone thought that we were the "perfect" little family and had our lives all together, figured out. It was quite the opposite. This is my story over a 5 year period of going from being on top of the world to losing absolutely everything and everyone. I had never felt so alone in my life. My husband and I had been together for 7 years and married for 4 and a half of those 7 years. It was far from perfect in the last 2 months before I decided to leave and become a single mother. My husband had developed a very big online computer game addiction and every waking minute he wasn't at work, he was on his computer gaming in real time. I worked as a Retail Store Manager and was working about 50 to 60 hours a week, come home to make dinner, tidy up after, bath our daughter and get her to bed, all while he played on his computer. I felt alone doing it all. I happened to have got very sick and misdiagnosed twice with severe acid reflux, that within a 2 week period that I was very sick I lost over 30 lbs. not intentionally. When I was sick I asked him on 2 separate occasions to take me to the hospital because I was very weak and could barely walk, little alone drive myself to the hospital. The response I got both times was, "do you need to go right this second, I am just in the middle of this match and can't pause it." I thought getting married we take a vow to love each other in sickness and health. I was not feeling this at all. I instead ended up calling my mother to take me both times. I reflected on this a lot during my recovery time once I was diagnosed and treated properly. Why are we staying together? The love has died. I believe that we were both just tolerating one another for the benefit of my daughter, but in reality it wasn't benefiting her at all, seeing her parents never spending time together. That's when I made the difficult decision to speak to my husband one day after I got home from work. When I started to speak to him about how I felt, he immediately voiced that he knew this was coming and he felt it too. We were both very civil with each other and divided all our things, as well as made a verbal custody agreement for our daughter.
By Tanya Milks5 years ago in Motivation
There Is No Peace Without Forgiveness
Think, for a moment, about the emotions and feelings you experience after someone does wrong by you, deceives you, undermines you, ridicules you, belittles you, criticizes you, defames you, or breaks your trust. After such an experience, naturally we feel hurt, upset, frustrated, sad, pained, unloved, betrayed, unappreciated, and quite often angry. For so many of us, when someone inflicts such emotional pain and hurt upon us, our first instinct is to fight back and emotionally hurt them in return. Sadly, many people unfortunately even resort to physical violence, as they completely lack will power, restraint, and mental control. What's the last thing we often find ourselves thinking about though, when someone is inflicting emotional pain and hurt upon us? Forgiveness! Here is this individual making us feel like crap, making our life difficult, making circumstances inconvenient for us, and making us feel worthless, and yet, how is it that the wisest thing for us to do in response is to be forgiving them for their actions? Forgiveness has to be undoubtedly one of the hardest actions to do in life. To let someone hurt and pain us, only to then sit back, accept it, forgive them for their actions, and move on, hardly seems a fair response. I admit, it does sound silly doesn't it, because we naturally believe that if someone is as low and disrespectful enough to pain and hurt us in some manner, then it would only be justice that they receive the same treatment in return. Humans are sticklers for revenge. So many of us love finding a way that we can inflict hurt and pain back on them, but in doing so, all we are doing is being just as low and disrespectful as they are. We are sinking ourselves down to their standard, and yet we have the audacity to accuse them of being rude, immature, and nasty. Then I suppose we resort back to the good old "well they started it" reaction. So they did, but what so many of us fail to realize is that the most ultimate revenge on someone is to actually walk away, ignore them, and forgive them.
By David Stidston5 years ago in Motivation
Martial Arts: Finding Silence Within
When we conjure the notion of creating inner peace, often we associate it with silence, with quiet activities, with rest. In some ways it is true; writing, knitting, sitting down to meditate, or taking an easy stroll are excellent ways to bring ease into our lives. I am presenting a different method of mine to create silence within me- Martial Arts.
By Dylan P5 years ago in Motivation
I'm Not Vulnerable, You're Vulnerable
I could not take feedback on anything. I would tell you I that I could, but I felt attacked. The truth is, I felt attacked if anyone didn’t agree with me, even in the pettiest scenarios. For example, the restaurant I picked out for the group. Especially if I asked for someone’s feedback on an email, paper, or some kind creation I made. You better not have told me things to change. I would’ve rather not asked for help than to know I did something wrong.
By Corey Jacobs5 years ago in Motivation
Don McDougle, quotes
Beyond words, stars, planets, possessions and all the things you can see, touch, hear, taste or smell, there is a world. In it you are connected with the eternal that never changes. It is who you really are. There are no more questions for all is revealed as you need it. You can return to the physical world and occupy your body. It is as a costume so you will be a presence there. It may get older, but will not die until you have served your purpose.
By Don McDougle5 years ago in Motivation
Knit-Wit
Free the Cripple In 2016 I underwent a private surgery to bid adieu to the chronic nerve pain, and lower back pain that had haunted my life for far too long. My family and I were at our wits' end with hearing the word chronic, followed by the word pain. It was time to try a new avenue; one that was not offered by the cookie cutter approach of the Canadian healthcare system. It was time to stop using my no-gravity chair as a crutch, and to stop relying on everyone around me to pick up the thing that I had dropped on the floor (as much as I loved that). The possibility of being free from the imprisonment of back pain that I had grown familiar with was an absolute dream. Being a former rower, swimmer and twenty-three year old who had enjoyed movement, being active and being upright, I was beyond excited for the possibility of returning to the physical activities I loved.
By Lindsay Neal5 years ago in Motivation
The Unpopular Caregivers Guide to Peace
Let us face facts; no one prepares you for the inevitable and yet soul-draining task of becoming a loved one's caregiver. And I say this most affectionately because they are all our loved ones. However, facts are facts, and no one forces us to take care of them. We are good people. And when we see someone in need, we make the most immediate conscious decision to make ourselves available for their every need, whether we're ready to do so or not.
By Melissa Barabin5 years ago in Motivation
The Lies We Tell Ourselves
Learning to live with life changing disability and /or illness is difficult enough, but we often fall into to the trap of not truly being able to see the truth about ourselves. We often think of ourselves in a diminished capacity with various limitations instead of all the positives that we have to offer or all the progress we have made. We tend to allow the pain and our weaknesses to tell the story instead of looking at how much we can do and enjoy. This can often to lead to further separation, anxiety, and depression, but there is always hope.
By Denise Rogers5 years ago in Motivation
The Desperate Plea
Fictional Writing with meaningful writing I have been dead for what 4 days now. Man, it feels like an eternity. Well when you’re dead you can’t age, right? Anyway, I have supposedly died in my sleep. Now you may think that it’s the most comfortable. No! It is still painful as if you were awake. Your spirit being sucked out of your body is painful. Imagine it like an empire state building-sized bandaid ripping off your arm. Yeah. So it seems according to the dead rule book I received on my way up is that I need to stay here. In this building. This rotten building. The place where I died building.
By Brandon Nephew5 years ago in Motivation
