Self-Love: Eldest Child, Take a Break!
You're Not Superhuman: Self-Care for the Overworked Elder
Growing up with the burden of responsibilities on his head, the eldest child forgets, not because he never knew, but because he was never meant to, that there exists a thing like self-love amidst all the work. He has to take care of his siblings, support his parents, and even, when necessary, be the family's backbone.
In most families, this eldest is made to feel like a mini-adult right from their early childhood years, undertaking tasks that call for maturity and self-sacrifice. This support they give their family is huge but unappreciated. The trouble comes in when this constant cycle of giving is so pervasive that there is little space in the eldest to receive support in return.
In the struggle to achieve what other people have insisted you do, the eldest child ends up giving a lot of attention to others and very little to himself. They are likely to forget or feel guilty for giving too much attention to their needs.
It is here that self-love comes into play. It encompasses the fact that as much as it calls one to attend to other people, it also calls one to attend to oneself.
Self-Love for the Eldest Child
Accept Your Needs: It's pretty cool to acknowledge that you also need some time for yourself. Time for yourself is not selfish; it is crucial.
Learn to say no: When things become too much to handle, learn to say no. Boundary setting helps avoid burnout.
Seek Support: Just because you are the firstborn does not mean that you do not need support. Reach out to a friend, mentor, or support group.
Engage in self-care: Spend time on things that give you energy and make you feel good. A hobby, a walk, or quiet time are to be prioritized.
Practice self-compassion: Learn to be kind to yourself. Understand that it's okay to not be perfect and okay to take breaks sometimes.
After all, self-love is not a luxury but a necessity. For you to be in a position to care for the people you love, you have to take care of yourself first. It all boils down to a balance wherein the love and care you dispense to others are balanced by those you dispense to yourself.
Love yourself and allow this love to become part of your foundation, just as you have been part of your family's foundation. You deserve it.
Eldest Child Responsibilities: Self-Love FAQs
Why should the eldest child be satisfied with self-love?
They lose out in life as they drown out their family roles and responsibilities. Hence, their self will be the only defence against burning out.
How can the eldest child love himself?
They can set limits and seek help; they must enjoy their self-care activities too.
Is it selfish if the eldest child focuses on self-love?
No, it makes them effective in their role and healthy.
How to mix responsibilities to the family with self-love?
Learn to recognize your needs as well, set realistic limits, and seek support when needed.
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