Self love and happiness

IMPORTANCE OF SELF-LOVE

What is love?

According to the oxford dictionary, love is an intense feeling of deep affection or feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment to (someone).

What is self-love?

Regard for one's well-being and happiness is what the dictionary explained as love.

I want to give a clear definition of love and self-love before I begin.

It is good to love people as much as you love yourself. Loving ourselves means being able to see our worth, believing in our-self and many many. You have to take care of yourself, not just physically but mentally and spiritually.

A lot of us do not know the importance of self-love, including myself. I always thought self-love meant doing what I thought was right for myself and not others but it is far more than that.

There is a song by BTS which I like, a particular verse in the song that got to me.

어쩌면 누군가를 사랑하는 것보다

더 어려운 게 나 자신을 사랑하는 거야

솔직히 인정할 건 인정하자

Which translates;

Loving myself might be harder

Than loving someone else

Let’s admit it

The whole song expresses the importance of wholeheartedly loving yourself. I think it is a wonderful song.

Loving ourselves is a challenging task.

We have people in our lives who love us no matter our flaws and that's a wonderful and beautiful thing to have.

Don't you think it is a little unfair to them? they decided to accept you for who you are and love you without asking, but you cannot love and accept yourself.

We often think people have to love us also accept us first.

When you love yourself you find peace, satisfaction, and comfort within yourself, you do not have to rely on anyone.

People tend to disappoint no matter how much trust them. No one is perfect.

Someone you love or trust might disappoint you, intentionally or not.

When you love yourself, you can accept these disappointments without doubting yourself.

Because you believe in yourself and know your worth without having to wait for someone to tell you and also be to understand that not everyone would be happy with your decisions sometimes.

Self-love also helps to understand yourself, for example, what you could to make yourself better.

Yes, self-love is love for yourself but not always, you have to care for others too. Sometimes people's opinions matter.

There is a difference between someone trying to help with your life and someone trying to tell you how to live your life.

Of course, there would be people who would try to destroy your life or wish bad for you, but there are a lot of good people out there who sincerely want to help.

When you love yourself you can be more open-minded, which can help you become better.

You would be able to accept and admit your mistakes. I think it is very important to be to admit your fault, it is brave and it is the right thing to do.

Here are some tips I hope would help one to start learning one's self;

1. Give yourself a break.

2. Learn how to say NO to others.

3. Believe in yourself.

4. Find what makes you happy.

5. Challenge yourself.

6. Learn how to forgive yourself when you make a mistake.

7. Take care of yourself

8. Set boundaries

9. Surround yourself with positive people.

10. Be open-minded.

My goal is to help people understand how important self-love is as I also learn.

I hope we will be able to learn more about ourselves and love ourselves first and of course, find happiness in ourselves.

I know it is going to be a difficult journey but we can do it!