School of Unlearning

Today is the day i complete and submit my book.

Why today? Because I have procrastinated way too long. Ever since i can remember various people have said to me “you should write a book”

Why would people say that you may ask? Well it is as simple as this. I have escaped and overcome extreme trauma. I joke often the true fact i have been blessed with more lives than a cat. As far as i know cats are known to have 9 lives. However not exactly sure where that figure was measured or how it was measured but simply for me it has meant I have been blessed with many lives escaping many near death experiences and dying once only to be brought back to know i sure as hell am meant to be here to share this message.

I may not be a psychologist or qualified in any health profession nor do i confess to know all the answers however due to the miracle i am and understanding the power of healing and overcoming copious amount of trauma i am excited to share part of my life’s journey. I am excited to share with you how i found freedom and continue to live an abundant and blessed life loving every extra second i have earth side. And more importantly why i am so incredibly grateful for all the traumatic experiences, abuse and disempowerment I’ve endured in my 39 years stemming from when i was in the womb.

I’d love YOU to feel the same and essentially after finishing reading my story feel empowered to love yourself silly and embrace every extra second you get earth side too. To find freedom for yourself and pass it on to others. As we say sharing is caring and in this case its apt as apt can be.

I believe its connection to ourselves first that is the vital key. I believe deep soulful connections are made once we fully embrace ourselves and are deeply in love with the miracle we are.

We are the only ones alive that have our DNA and this uniqueness once celebrated and embraced inwardly is the biggest gift we can give humanity.

Loving ourselves first authentically and celebrating the unique gift we are due to only us having our unique DNA can have a powerful domino effect. We can have a significant positive impact where differences turn into unity and self doubt turns into empowerment.

Being yourself will inspire others to be themselves. You will inspire others by sharing your uniqueness and your story. Don’t be afraid to share transparently and honestly. It was amazing to see how when i shared openly my struggles with eating disorders how it took the sting out of the guilt and shame that was attached to it. The unity and love i felt when others related with me and the supporting collective approach to combat the darkness with light took the power out of it. WE are built for relationship and connection. WE are not born to be a stand alone island. WE need to connect and feel safe to express ourselves as a god given birth right. Any disorder or addiction can be combated once brought to the surface. The deeper i dig the deeper the healing and far out brussel sprout its far from comforting. Infact some of the most extruciating pain has come from sharing some of my deepest secrets i held in fear of the guilt and persecution that could follow. The best part of that is once shared and brought to the light i have experienced more joy and gratitude i ever knew possible. Storms are just as important as the rainbow at the end.

Celebrating your uniqueness unapologetically and authentically can only empower others to do the same. AMAZING and ACHIEVABLE for EVERYONE . Who doesn’t want to live in FREEDOM?

When we shift from competition to collaboration it has a powerful opportunity to empower , inspire and promote unity and love that will never go out of fashion. Kindness with compassion and understanding only feels good when a recipient and just as importantly when given.

When we can reside with the understanding that we are not in competition with others and solely focus on celebrating our differences instead of opposing them we will find freedom like no other.

If we feel we can’t be in a healthy relationship on any level because our values regarding say sexuality or religion for example are opposites then my previous few lines wont be able to come to fruition.

French people in general love to debate. They enjoy a debate even if it ends in a both parties disagreeing. Often various cultures ( Australian in my case) feel the need to be on the same page or have similar values to be able to work and collaborate with each other.

Is it possible to have opposing religious views to get along? Is it possible to have opposite views on how our sexual orientation is formed or opposing views re politics or education? It’s a big YES OF COURSE IT IS. It is absolutely possible to be best friends, soulmates even if you don’t agree on 100 per cent of the other person’s point of view. Infact the more you disagree the more intimacy you can share.

We are all built for connections. We all have a deep need to build deep soulful connections however we need to understand that diversity and our uniqueness is worth more than our pride and ego. It is okay to passionately debate and share our view as long as we know our value is not increased because others believe the exact same thing. In fact the celebrating is in the differences as i will repeat and continue to drill in as many different ways as I’m able to articulate.

Seek to understand to be understood . We can co exist in unity with opposing views. In fact its extremely liberating when we can show up in confidence with our firm views, then debate with passion and end up leaving the conversation knowing we are still firm in our own views but have evolved and seized the moment to allow another fellow human speak their mind and be heard. We all have a need for connection and to be heard. We all have a deep need to be understood and to feel acceptance and a sense of belonging. So in accordance with my firm belief i would love to profess I believe we can all live in unity once we firmly believe that to co exist we all can have contrary opposing views then harmony will follow.

I used to resent my folks for the abuse i was subjected to until I took ownership and charge of my trajectory with a passionate desire to stop the generation abuse cycle. As being a parent myself i saw no other choice. The generational abuse cycle was 100 percent stopping with me so i did the work.

Without any need for further explanation i will focus on what I’d love to share as when we share our story it has the capability and capacity to empower and inspire others. I would love this to be the case for you. I would love to reach as many people as possible ( millions) so we can live in unity preaching kindness and embracing diversity as our currency.

So without further ado i will continue re the resentment i had for my mother. My whole life I resented her for the abuse she inflicted on me. Resentment is like drinking poison then expecting your victim to die. I felt entitled to feel like the world owed me something because my birth mother’s behaviour was so rotten and narcissistic. I grew up thinking that i was superior because my father was a bank manager and we had built a huge house and had in society standards the perfect life with the socialite lifestyle to match. I was taught to look down on my friend’s who had single mums and took their children through the McDonald’s drive thru instead of restaurants we went to. I looked down on those who lived in community housing and saw them as less of humans because they didn’t go to the theatre and live a lifestyle where appearance were more important than integrity. I now realise how wrong my judgement of others who i felt were less superior to myself because of the standard i grew up thinking were vital to be not only important but essential in being successful.

I was so humbled to realise how judgmental I’ve been and why I still struggle to see it in others. I continue to work through the beliefs and combat the conditioning that caused an innocent child to believe because of monetary wealth or appearances i am better than my fellow neighbour. The mirror is tough and this is no hidden fact when we choose to grow. When we develop our character the mirror is sure to gift you with growing pains. It is always a choice to choose our attitude. I believe the term growing pains is not defined by our physical body growing from a baby to an adult. I believe its the life long opportunity to develop to the point where in the deep essence of the message i am portraying that WE ALL BLEED RED and IN UNITY WE ALL WILL FIND PEACE.

The School of Unlearning is the name I have called this book because we all have conditioning we need to unlearn and reframe. We had no choice how our environment and experiences were played out as a child but WE ALL have an opportunity to reframe, heal, grow and evolve as an adult.

Stress is a choice. The victim mentality will not ever serve you and boy can i admit to this. The resentment i had because i had been subjected to severe forms of abuse for most of my life, been taught that serving others meant to be walked all over, be a door mat and put others physical and sexual needs first was never going to bring the healing.

How have i grown into the self loving, kind , empowering and inspirational adult i am? I chose to heal. I chose to do the work so i could be the best possible version of myself , love myself authentically and unapologetically so my first born could have the opportunity to be free too. I saught out therapy in various forms, seeking out health professionals who could assist me in receiving the healing i needed then implementing what i had learned being consistent in using the strategies I knew worked. I made my focus to heal, to break through, overcome , grow and flourish.

It was painful and continues to be painful but in my very deep understanding if your not in pain your not growing as they are called growing pains for a reason. We can either be comfortable and do what’s alway been done. WE can choose to stay stuck using the excuse “ i am what i am take me or leave me ” OR WE CAN be bold and choose to grow which essentially isn’t only going to empower and heal you it will be passed on as a legacy which your future generations will benefit from. A legacy producing millions more beautiful souls who believe kindness and unconditional love for all is the only currency we need to survive.

I repeat, it may have been painful temporarily but now all i feel is an incredibly powerful love for life. I started to be consistent in setting my intentions for my life. Consistent in my non negotiable healthy habits. I made my self loving self driven self empowering holistic healthy habits as non negotiables as i knew if I wasn’t authentic in loving my self first i lacked the privilege of loving others authentically. I became conditioned to be grateful for everything and consistently feel and express my gratitude all through the day. I became consistent in how i showed up each day making sure I started with yoga, practicing positive affirmations and journaling. I took self deprived thoughts and replaced them with self empowering thoughts. I did and still do this every day. I chose to glow in solitude first. I now glow in public because there is no other option for me. I choose to do the work because in the growth comes liberation like no other and the wonderful part of this is it leaves a legacy of hope, joy and love. And as the song says “what the world needs now , is love sweet love, as it's the only thing there’s just too little of ” . I agree with this wholeheartedly. Always more room for LOVE SWEET LOVE.

I listened, I connected deep within myself and heard the inner voice then gave it the pleasure of acting accordingly to what it needed. I became a joy to myself first and embraced the uniqueness i have in the fact only i can be me. I replaced and reframed views that didn’t serve me anymore and i proclaimed the queen and bossbabe i am. I took the approach that if its the last thing i do i will make every extra second on this earth count. I focused on growing a self loving , passionate , giving , generous , wealthy and healthy soul who knew with every inch of her soul she was MEANT to BE HERE.

I showed up everywhere i went knowing my worth. Knowing I was meant to be here to empower , to inspire and to encourage and liberate others to do the same. To share the message we all have a choice to either wallow in our victim hood or shine like the sun. In no way shape or form do i preach that any of the traumatic experiences you may have endured like i have were okay at all or that you deserved them at all. I certainly didn’t dererve to be raped in a local park at age 14. But i do and did have a choice how i continued to respond to this experience and all the other traumatic experiences i endured with no fault of my own.

I can guarantee if you choose gratitude over bad attitude you will see miracles happen in your life and those around you. Its contagious in the best way possible. If you can approach every experience you’ve had in your life with no judgement just gratitude then your focus will be shown GLOWING IN SPADES.

GLOWING IN SOLITUDE IS THE FIRST STEP.

THEN THE BEAUTIFUL UNIVERSE WILL SEE YOU LOVING YOURSELF AND IT IS GUARANTEED TO INPSPIRE OTHERS TO DO THE SAME.

I LOVE YOU.

How does it feel when you read the words I LOVE YOU?

What you focus on grows. We simply can’t be happy and sad at the same time. If you’d love to choose to grow yourself into a sunflower standing tall with a sunny attitude that oozes with love and joy then you can. We all choose what we think and say and yes we do choose to be stressed. Hard one to take if we feel like everything is crumbling down in our life without any control absolutely. I appreciate this as I’ve had the lecture copious times before i was ready to let go of the comfort that my situation and circumstances and lack of wealth was to be blamed on all the abuse I’d suffered so essentially i had to choose to let go of victim hood and turn the trauma and not so ideal life experiences into my power and my ability to share and inspire globally to now introduce to you THE SCHOOL OF UNLEARNING UNITY PROJECT.

What is your message BEAUTIFUL SOUL?

Let’s spread love, joy, peace and unity like wildfire. I 10000 percent believe it’s possible and you can too. DO the work YOU ARE WORTH THE PAIN. GROWING PAINS ARE BEAUTIFUL xx

Love you unconditionally and I personally would love to celebrate you for the unique gift you are. THANK YOU for being YOU.

WARMEST WISHES and LOVE ALWAYS FOEVER

RAYCHEL LU