Only if you know how to let go, you can find your true self

The past will only make you lose yourself in the hatred and slowly become the person you hate the most.

Some people were originally emotionally devoted, but because of the love injury, and become do not believe in love, play with feelings for fun, and become the person they once hated the most.

The more you hate something, the easier it is to meet something.

It's not that life doesn't let you go, but you don't let yourself go.

Only learn to put down those unworthy people and things, to find their true selves, otherwise, they will only let themselves become more and more "ugly" in the entanglement.

1, complaining about life, the victims are themselves

Everyone has a hard time getting through, whether it's the pressure of life, job disappointment, or the pressure of school ...... the burden is getting heavier and heavier, and sometimes walking a few steps will feel out of breath.

At this point, some people choose to give up midway, some choose to continue to persist, and some choose to stop and complain ......

Different choices, there are different life directions: people who give up lightly, give up once, there will be a second time, it is difficult to stick to the end; continue to insist on people as long as they survive, everything will slowly become better; and people who constantly complain about life, the more you complain, the harder it is for you.

Bill Gates once said, "If you get into trouble, don't complain shrilly about mistakes, learn from them."

Otherwise, you will keep repeating similar dilemmas and get yourself deeper and deeper into them, and it will be hard to get out of them.

Very often, constantly complaining, not only can not solve the problem but also easy to adds unnecessary trouble.

First of all, complaining more will take up time, delaying you to do what you want to do; secondly, complaining more will make you become less confident and fall into infinite confusion and loss; finally, complaining more will affect your daily interactions so that the sympathy that existed "spoiled".

So, instead of continuing to complain about where life is not good, why not learn to review where they do not do well enough, through the "right medicine" efforts, so that they can solve the problem at hand?

2, constantly torment you, is your inability to let go

When the past has become the past, a dwelling, but in the torture of their own.

Many times, the so-called can't let go, not how memorable the past is, but there is resentment in the heart.

But I did not think that it is this unwillingness to let themselves fall deep in the hatred, even if the final revenge can get revenge, I am afraid that they will also be a lot of harm.

I thought I could get relief from this, but in reality, I only let myself fall deeper.

Nietzsche once wrote in "The Other Side of Good and Evil": "If you fight with the evil dragon for too long, you will become an evil dragon yourself. If you stare too long into the abyss, the abyss will stare back."

A thought of heaven, a thought of hell, unwilling to let go of the past, waiting for the self-torture.

Those memories you can not forget, perhaps only you remember, others have long left it in the past, to embrace their happiness, you think the "revenge", the final revenge may only be their own.

It is impossible to let go of those people and things that are not worth keeping. No, it's just that the heart is not willing.

We always have the preconception that continuing to dwell is the best revenge, but I do not know that always to the past nagging, choosing to forget the past, focus on themselves, to achieve a better self, is the best revenge for a person.

Therefore, a person can only let go of the obsession to embrace happiness.

3、Learn to let go and embrace happiness

There is nothing that can't be overcome, only that you refuse to let yourself go.

It is difficult to live again, there is always a silver lining, but clinging to the past, is undoubtedly seeking death.

Many people think they can't let go of the past that obsession, but ignore what they want, the result is hatred trapped in half a life, constantly hurting others at the same time, but also hurting themselves.

I don't know, if you choose to put it down, perhaps the follow-up is not so much love and hate entanglement.

Life becomes simpler, people will also become a happy point.

A long life, why trap yourself in the past, rather than learn to put it down, to embrace your happiness?

The ones who can't let go of their obsessions will eventually be slowly relieved under the wear and tear of time.