My growth model

Recently, I have been thinking, what is my growth model? A clear understanding of this model will let me further clarify the train of thought of growth, and then play a role in promoting growth. After thinking about it, my growth model can be simplified to: "goal-strategy-tactical" model. The goal is the city at the end, the strategy is the chosen road, the tactics are how to drive, and how many roads to drive every day.

The target is the place where you want to go. People need goals. An ideal is something higher than a goal, which is not an ideal, but something more specific and secular than an ideal, which is closely related to our life, work, family and life. The goal is the sum of the imagination for the future, is the end point of life. The goal is a city, which is the destination of your wandering, wandering and thoughtful thoughts. In this city, what kind of food you eat, what kind of clothes you wear, what kind of work you do, what kind of friends you make, what your loved ones and children look like, and what kind of state you are, are clear, this is the goal.

You can't have many goals, you'd better have only one. Because at the end of life, you can only be in one city. Too many goals are not goals, but greedy desires that you can't control. Wanting too much will blind your mind and keep you in entanglement and repetition. No one can withstand such internal friction, and in the end, the efficiency and quality of life will be dragged down, and it will be difficult to achieve any goal and fail to reach any destination.

The goal can be divided into primary and secondary, the primary goal will be achieved, and the secondary goal will be achieved synchronously. Some people feel that they have many goals, but in fact they do not distinguish between priorities. It's like, when you drive, you pass through several cities before you reach your destination. These cities are secondary targets, and only that city is the primary target. Keep an eye on your final destination, plan your route carefully, and you will naturally arrive in cities. These cities will become your supply point, not only will not waste time, but will help you. However, if you treat primary and secondary goals equally, you will waste too much time going back and forth, tossing about, or standing still. In the end, I only clocked in one city after another, but I could never reach the final destination. Therefore, learn to distinguish between primary and secondary goals and find the ultimate primary goal.

When you go to the final destination, you will miss some cities, which also have a lot of beautiful scenery, but a round trip can take too much time and even make it impossible to reach the final destination. Then, these cities are neither primary goals nor secondary goals, but false goals that must be given up. I have my own goals in mind. That's my imagination about the future, where I am, who I am, what I've done, what I've gained, what I've missed, and where I've stayed. Although it can not be fully thought out, it still has a general appearance. I will move towards this goal.

Strategy is the way to the goal. All roads lead to Rome, the target is Rome, but there is more than one way to Rome. The core of the strategy is focus. A person's time and energy is limited and scarce, so it is not easy to do a thing well. It is possible to achieve success only by devoting all or at least most of your energy to one cause. If you want to do a lot of things, then everything will be painstaking and laborious, like a constantly leaking dam, energy and time are slowly exhausted, and finally exhausted, everything is ordinary.

The strategy to help achieve the goal is to follow the chosen path and get closer to the final destination. This is taken for granted and self-evident, but people tend to forget it. I am a person with a wide range of hobbies, so I often make such mistakes. When I was in college, I taught myself how to make a website. I knew all kinds of related knowledge and software. After going to work, I began to teach myself programming. I don't have any programming foundation, I guess I don't have any talent, and I don't know the way to learn, so I'm inefficient and ineffective. On and off for a few years, or basically nothing. The same is true in English learning, every year there are always a few months, I suddenly want to re-learn English, buy books, tutorials, clock in, all kinds of things again. In the end, it is also fruitless, English is still dead or alive.

Why can't you always learn these things well? Because when I learn these things, either on a whim or out of vanity, it has nothing to do with where I finally want to go and what I want to achieve. The longer you spend on these roads, the more time and energy you will waste. So, now that I don't learn these things, I will do something else, such as learning how to raise children, memorizing interview materials, and memorizing outlines, all of which are strongly related to the goals I want to achieve and will help me in the first place. these are the paths I should take and the right strategies.

Tactics are the way to go. Whether to take a car or walk, whether to drive or rub against other people's car, how many kilometers to walk every day, where to rest, and what supplies to bring are all very specific things. Tactics include different battles, each of which serves the current strategy. In other words, it takes a lot of battles to support the realization of a strategy.

The most effective tactic I have learned and practiced over the years is "disassembly quantification". Is to disassemble what needs to be done into a certain number of tasks. Do not underestimate this tactic, many seemingly difficult things, once dismantled and quantified, become easier.

For example, learning an interview may seem very difficult, but it can be broken down as follows: master 30 questions (memorize 30 questions). In this way, it becomes easier. Disassembly materializes non-specific things, simplifies complex tasks, and quantifies the visualization of invisible progress, thereby increasing the desire to execute and complete. If you can't see it, people are like walking in a dark forest, and it's hard to stick to it. Therefore, quantification is not enough, but also digitization.

Have a goal in mind, that is the end point to be achieved; choose the road to go, that is the strategy of life; break up the long road into small sections, quantify them one by one, and see your own progress every day, this is my growth model.

At the request of the students, I updated the video in bilibili. Welcome to join me on the road from being white to being a noodle bully. Above: my understanding of cultural confidence