LOVE YOURSELF.

If i asked you to name some of the things you love how long would it take before you named yourself?

'Love yourself', you have probably heard that a million times....Easier said than done right? Truth is as much as we really think we love ourselves, its the most difficult thing to ever do. Accepting who you are, your features, your body, your color, your language and everything else there is about you isn't as easy as we think or are told.

You know yourself so well yet we shrink ourselves to what society says we are. We believe the negative things said about us by strangers,friends or even family knowing so well that,that is not us. We are more than that, you are everything and more, believe me. Why do we need people to feel like we are complete? to feel like we are whole? Why do we seek validation and approval to feel like we are enough? like we belong?

Nothing meant to be in your life will ever require you to abandon yourself. So remember this when you are so busy chasing other people that you don't realize you are losing yourself.....changing ourselves so as to keep relationships, friendship or trying so hard to fit in a group. Honey, you wont have to chase your people and you will never lose what is meant to stay.

Imagine how hard it is to change ourselves then you will understand how hard it is to change other people. Don't sweat it.Allow things to be how they are not what you wish they were. That's why you get disappointed most of the times. Allow yourself to grow, that means giving up some things. There are some things we cant hold on to forever. It is advisable to know when something is no longer serving it's purpose to lift you up. Know when to let go of things that keep holding you back and making you feel like you are not good enough. You'll always be good for something. Go find it!

We are all human, how can we be perfect? you should not try so hard to be that it makes you sad or see yourself any different. No one is you and that is your power, in the entire whole world .. it's just you. You will be perfect for the one who truly deserves you, with all your flaws.. but first love yourself. Please stop trying to sell me your perfection. You are flawed and i am too and we are both wearing shiny cloaks of virtue but i know that when the day is done and the lights are dimmed, you shed your sainthood like snakeskin and i do too. Tell me what you are hiding, what you don't want the world to know about yourself for fear that it will be cast into light. Let me fall in love with your darkness.

Give me your broken parts, your fractured pieces, everything that's weighed too heavily on the floor of your heart. Let me see them, reach out and touch them with my trembling fingers,because i still cant bear to face my own demons. Give me your struggles and impurities, tell me about the worst thing you have ever done. Your regrets that slither under your skin and beat through your bloodstream. Talk to me about the times you couldn't look at yourself in the mirror or fall asleep at night because the madness of your own mind kept you reeling.

I want you to fall in love with your human parts-the battles you can't fight, the wounds you cant heal, all the ways in which you are not enough for yourself. Give me your joys and your pain in equal measure because you are the most brilliant and terrible mixture of both. None of us want to think of ourselves as works in progress. We want everything to happen instantaneously: Falling in love, falling out of it, letting go of what we know we ought to leave in the past and moving on to whatever comes next.

We hate the spaces in between the process. Times when we are okay but not quite there yet. Periods where we suspect that growth is happening but we have nothing to show for it. Days when everything feels like its falling into place yet we still go home and cry into our pillow because there's nobody to share our good news with. If success is a staircase, then we are taking two steps forward and one step back and that's okay. That's how we keep balance. To love yourself, you have to be patient with yourself as you move through the parts in between where we've been and where we are going.

Its okay not to be there yet. Its okay to be unsure of every step that you take forward. We don't talk about how moving on sometimes feels like we're fighting every part of our most basic instincts. We should talk about how growth is often every bit as painful as it is beautiful. If you could only stop beating yourself up over it,you might realize just how far you've already come.Love yourself first,not necessarily most or best, but first.

Don't cancel plans that you are excited about because somebody else wants your time. Don't rearrange your schedule to accommodate another person.You need someone who you can rely on and that person has to be you.So don't look at yourself as a sad consolation prize, put the work in. Be proud of yourself and if you are who you're left with at the end of the day,be happy with who you've ended up with. Make sure you pick you over anyone and anything else.

There's a particular way you laugh that can make an entire room light up,if only for a moment in time. There's a way you tilt your head when you are concentrating that makes you look unbearably kissable...there's a noise you make when you are falling asleep that is tranquil and calm. There are a million minute intricacies that make up who you are and not a single one has ceased to exist since the last time that somebody loved you. I know we are not supposed to need reminders of that , because we are strong,self-sufficient and reassured-certain of our worth. But we are human, we forget!

All the little quirks that make you up are not extinguished because somebody once chose against them. Somebody's going to love all those tiny things about you. The way you cough, they're going to laugh at the way you forget your keys while you are actually holding them. Someone is going to appreciate all your insecurities eventually but right now they are all your own. And that's okay because first and foremost you will always belong to yourself. Don't get so used to your features that you actually forget how beautiful you are.

Darling, i hope you learn to love yourself!