Little Miss Perfect.

It’s a brilliant and happy time of the year. So why bring up such an unhelpful and difficult subject?

Well, actually 🎄 Christmas, the New Year and January in itself bring up many difficulties for people.

We have to have the best clothes, the best time, the best presents, the best fun. We live in a world where we no longer allow ourselves to have fun, but we have to sit back and consider whether we have been “productive” or “successful”; whether we have written that chapter of the new book we want to publish or worked out at the gym like we promised ourselves we would.

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and breathe.

You wonder why people get so worked up easily?

I can admit that I am the type of person that finds it easy to be worked up easily. Anxiety, Depression, Society. Blah, blah, blah.

But in this first pocket of my wellbeing pick me up, I want to unravel a little secret to you all.

Feeling awful that you slept in a bit longer?

Feeling guilty that you missed out on that day at the gym?

Don’t. STOP 🛑 IT. Can’t you see?!

You are already self-sabotaging your own happiness. You need to realise that you are your own number one boss babe. Your own man. Your own person. You do you.

Ever since I stopped caring about I SHOULD and SHOULD NOT be doing. I have been far more productive.

Make a list or think about things you really want to achieve or do this Christmas,

The people you want to see, the exercise you want to do, so you feel guided and do the things that we want to do.

And if you don’t achieve it? Who cares.

Thinking positively and unconditioning negative thoughts about yourself will make you feel genuinely more blissful.

TOP TIPS:

1. Don’t spend all of your time on Instagram and/or Facebook during 🎄 Christmas. We all know that it’s difficult to be fully happy with our selves when we are constantly comparing ourselves to our ideal version of perfection that doesn’t exist. Set your phone settings to lock you out of your social media after your preferred allocation of time.

2. Make sure you do something that makes you happy every single day. Cliche, I know? Wrong. A lot of the time we do things because it makes us feel successful or good. We can sometimes sabotage things that don’t make us feel just happy. Go and read your favourite book, learn to bake that tasty cheesecake, go for that long refreshing walk.

If signing up for a new training course or reading Bill Gates latest book on business management is something that you feel like you SHOULD be doing instead of something that GENUINELY makes you feel happy. Then I suggest you dropping that idea like it’s hot!

You are your own awesome best friend and you need to treat your days like a mini vacation!

3. Be in the moment.

The beauty of life is in enjoying and relishing every sweet second of your surroundings. At Christmas, you will be spending time with the family, fighting over food, and worrying about whatever new COVID restrictions will be in place.

So, stop thinking about 2021 for a second, or the work you need to do for the New Year. Truly, sit back and appreciate that zesty smell of 🍋 lemon, that annoying laugh your mum makes that you secretly love so much, and collect them into a box (metaphorical or not!) of memories to keep with you.

Of course, there will be times when you are concerned. When you feel like you hate your family or that the weather is too cold. But knowing that it’s a perfectly normal way to feel and being able to feel the same compassion for yourself that you would for your closest friends, slowly turns that self-hatred and perfection you hold for yourself into a sense of calm.

Have the best Christmas and New Year and remember- stop judging yourself and holding yourself up to imaginary standards!