Literally! Nobody Cares: Overcoming the Social Anxiety

John was an ambitious and intelligent young man, full of potential and with a bright future ahead of him.

He was presented with an amazing opportunity to share his knowledge and show off his skills to an audience of influential people via a speech competition.

But his negative thoughts and shyness were crippling him back on procrastination that what others would think if he said something wierd on stage.

However still he participated because he was eager to. As the day of the competition approached, John began to feel anxious and nervous.

He worried about what others would think of him, and he wondered if he would be able to articulate his thoughts clearly and effectively in front of such a large crowd. Despite his best efforts, he couldn't shake the feeling of dread that seemed to grip him as he thought about the upcoming event.

As the moderator introduced him to the audience, he could feel his heart pounding in his chest and his palms growing sweaty. He tried to focus on his notes and the points he wanted to make, but his mind was racing and he couldn't seem to calm down.

When it was finally his turn to speak, John struggled to get the words out. His voice trembled and he stumbled over his words, unable to convey the ideas that he had spent so much time preparing. The other panelists looked on with concern, and the audience seemed to sense that something was amiss.

In the end, John's opportunity to express his thoughts and show his knowledge to everyone was lost due to his social anxiety.

He left the conference feeling defeated and disappointed in himself, wondering what might have been if he had been able to overcome his fears and speak with confidence.

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So what happened to John happens to almost everyone. This phenomenon is often called the Spotlight Effect, a phenomenon where people overestimate the extent to which others are paying attention to them and their actions.

He had been so focused on what others might think of him and how he was performing, that he had lost sight of the opportunity to share his knowledge and insights with a wider audience.

We often think that the spotlight is on us. Or we are constantly being judged and everyone is noticing us when on stage.

The main reason that why we are not open on stage is we think that people are constantly watching us, and judging us. We are scared to act on how we want to be ourselves because we don't want others to dislike us.

But however the majority simply don't care! What they care about is themselves, not you and your words. And we should rationalize this concept in our minds in order to overcome this social anxiety.

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However I still after acknowledging it some people may find it difficult to adapt it properly.

Sometimes we often struggle to apply our knowledge and skills in practical because we rely too heavily on the specific examples or situations in which we learned them.

It happened with me too we often struggle to apply knowledge. We can easily overcome it using repitition.

I successfully overcomed social anxiety and mastered this phenomenon using the following techniques.

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Identifying The Triggers

Identifying what triggers your social anxiety is a key step in overcoming it. Many people find that certain situations, environments, and/or people make social anxiety more likely. Triggers can be anything from a co-worker's comments to a big event, such as a wedding, where social anxiety is more likely. Once you've identified your triggers, you'll be able to better prevent and manage your social anxiety, as well as better understand yourself.

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Learn Relaxation Techniques

Techniques, such as deep breathing, can help you when anxiety strikes and can also be used as preventive tools. In addition to helping you manage the physical symptoms of anxiety, such as rapid heartbeat and sweating, relaxation techniques will help you calm your nervous system so that you can think clearly, stay focused, and manage your stress levels. Studies even show that learning relaxation techniques can help change the structure of your brain so that you become less anxious.

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Challenge Negative Thoughts

Negative thoughts can often lead to social anxiety. These thoughts can include anything from obsessing over other people's judgment to worrying about embarrassing yourself in front of others. When these thoughts take over, they can cause your anxiety to spiral out of control. By challenging these negative thoughts and replacing them with more positive ones, you can overcome social anxiety.

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Conclusion

Social anxiety affects an estimated 15% of adults.

It's important to remember that social anxiety is not a sign of weakness, nor is it necessarily a reflection of how one will ultimately perform in social situations.

It is a condition that can be managed and treated, and it doesn't mean that the individual with social anxiety is antisocial or incapable of social interaction.

Like any other type of anxiety or nervousness, social anxiety is a manageable condition that can help you become more comfortable in social situations.

While social anxiety can sometimes be a challenge to overcome, it can have a significant impact on your life if you aren't able to address and overcome it.