“Life is bitter, fate is destined”

“Life is bitter, fate is destined”: Some bitterness is a fateful arrangement, and you can’t escape it in your life The ancients said: “Everyone has his own destiny, how can he force it?” Everyone has their own destiny, so how can we force it? Since we can’t force it, we shouldn’t be too entangled, but can only accept it calmly.

1. From the perspective of fate, in fact, everyone’s fate has different checkpoints and is full of different blessings.

Of course, there are also different destinations. Some people’s fate is “hardship”, then his life should be more “unfortunate” than “lucky”. Some people’s destiny is “good luck”, then their life should be more “lucky” than “unlucky”. Everything is hard to say. What’s more, everyone’s mission is different, so everyone’s suffering is also different. Just like children born in poor families, they may work for a lifetime, but they can’t reach the starting point of the rich second generation. Is this really fair? In fact, there are many things that cannot be evaluated with the word “fairness”. The rich second generation has its own mission, and the poor second generation also has its own mission. That being the case, then we need to have self-knowledge and realize our own life value in “suffering”. No matter what the result is, it is no regret. Bitterness is the arrangement of your fate, and you cannot escape it in your life.

2 . The pain of “success or failure” cannot be escaped in your whole life.

There used to be two brothers who went to Guangdong to work together. Ten years later, the eldest brother stayed in Guangzhou and bought a house at the same time. As for the second brother, he had no choice but to return to his hometown. The second brother was particularly puzzled, my eldest brother and I were both children from the same family, with similar abilities, why could my eldest brother succeed but I couldn’t? You know, success or failure depends on the combination of countless conditions. The eldest brother worked in the post for a period of time, was appreciated by a boss, and was directly promoted to be his right-hand man. It is this noble person who has greatly improved his career achievements. And the second brother didn’t meet anyone who appreciates him in his job, nor did he encounter any opportunities, so how could he stay in the big city with a dead salary? Don’t think that if two brothers come from the same family, their experiences will be similar. People’s encounters are different, and the final result of that person is also different. Suffering is inevitable. And the harvest is not necessary.

3. The pain of “gain and loss” cannot be escaped in your whole life.

Someone once said that for everything that belongs to you, you will eventually have it. Everything that doesn’t belong to you, no matter how much you struggle, won’t help. Take “fate” as an example, it is your luck that you have met the one you love in the vast sea of people. On the contrary, it is also a kind of misfortune that you lose what you love in the vast crowd. Gaining and losing is like a pair of twins, they can never be separated, and they will always be with each other. What one party gains, the other party loses. This is the inevitable result of “complementary”. There are two strokes of herringbone, one can be written, and the other can be lost. The reason why people feel pain for “gains and losses” is because we can’t let go, we only want to have it all the time, and we have no psychological preparation for “losing”. People, as long as they come to this world, they will definitely experience the misfortune of being “lost”. At this moment, you lose your lover; at the next moment, you lose your money; at the next moment, you may even lose yourself. This is the cruel reality of the world. Therefore, nine out of ten unsatisfactory things in life can be changed by non-human beings.

4. You will not be able to escape the pain of “things backfired” all your life.

I once chatted with a circle friend, and he said to me: “I used to want to go to a prestigious university, but in the end, I only went to an ordinary undergraduate college. After I came out, I saw that my classmates had entered a state-owned enterprise, and I wanted to enter too. Who knew that I couldn’t get in, so I had to go to a small unit. Later, I met someone I liked, but others didn’t like me, so I had to marry someone who had no feelings for me. In the end, everything is not going your way. “ The experience of this circle of friends is actually the experience of most people. Always want to do something, but always can’t do it. I always think about achieving something, but in the end, it backfires and I can’t realize my wish. It is difficult for people to “backfire”. Is this a good thing or a bad thing? Essentially, it’s a good thing. From experience, it is a kind of pain. People, as long as there is a gap in their hearts, their mentality will be impacted, and the more they live, the more meaningless they feel. The greatest meaning of life is to be happy but to accept everything that “goes against your wishes” and live your own ordinary and ordinary life.

5. The pain of “separation” cannot be escaped for the rest of your life.

Among the eight sufferings in the world, there is such a kind of suffering called “parting from love”. The more people we have relationships with and feelings for, the more they will leave us. The more it has nothing to do with us, the more people we hate will come to us. This is what we often call “Saha”, which roughly means tolerable and regretful. Hatred will come unexpectedly, and good love will gradually stay away from us. So helpless, it is difficult for us to change. For example, we say goodbye to our parents. Why do we often say that we should “be filial in time”? It is because parents will eventually grow old one day. This company time is just one day, and one day less. For example, we will bid farewell to youth. No matter how beautiful the youth is, it will disappear. The once young boy will eventually become an old middle-aged and elderly person. All parting is a symbol of pain. The so-called “most good things are not strong, but the colorful clouds are easy to disperse and the glass is brittle” is the truth. As a human being, one should taste a little “sweetness” in the bitterness, and live in the present, that’s enough. For the rest, laughing it off is the best choice.