Letter to my 18 year old self
What I wish I'd known then
Dear 18 year old me,
It gets better. I promise.
You think that at 18 life can't get any better but it can and it will.
You're a beautiful person inside and out. Don't let anyone tell you any different. People are going to call you crazy for how you love unconditionally..do it anyways. People will tell you that you are too forgiving... Do it anyways. People will judge you for being too quiet and then judge you when you say the wrong things....do it anyways.
You're going to fall in love, watch love leave, and fall out of love time and time again. Don't ever forget that everything happens for a reason. The one that got away is gone for a reason. If it's meant to be it will come back to you and it will be amazing.
In your life before something great happens everything must fall apart. At times you will feel like life is over. Indeed, it is not. Get off the floor, pull yourself together, put your red high heels on and get on with your life.
Never EVER settle for anything less than what makes you unbelievably happy. Do not be guided by fear.
Never be tamed.
Instead find someone just as wild as you to enjoy life with. If you think what you're doing is wrong.. it probably is. But do it anyway because that's the only way you're going to learn your lesson. You're going to learn SO many lessons.
Remember to think before you speak and stop being defensive...not everyone is out to hurt you. Remember that how you treat people and the energy you put out into the universe will come back to you. Karma is real and she's a bitch.
The coming years are going to bring more questions then answers. That's ok. Ask lots of questions and don't give up until you have the answer you're at peace with. YOU CAN NOT CHANGE ANYONE BUT YOURSELF. Repeat that previous sentence over and over again till you get it! Someone who truly loves you will love even your dark sides and they will never walk away.
Never have regrets because at some point what you were doing was exactly what you wanted in that moment.
Stop eating like crap. Seriously.. put the soda down and back away slowly. That shit will kill you. Run, swim, dance and enjoy a beautiful day whenever you can.
You're going to travel the country.. Love every minute of it and take it all in. Cry when you need to but consider what you're crying about and if its really worth your time. When you realize its not worth it stop showing your ugly cry face, stand up & walk away from what's hurting you with confidence and class.
You are not entitled to closure so learn to let it go.
Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Lastly, I know you believe that prince charming doesn't exist, but he does. For you he will be a little baby who will call you "mama" and will always love you no matter what. He's your reason for living and he is all you'll ever need in life.
Love always,
Your much older and SOMETIMES wiser self 😉
P.S- Stay young and free forever... oh and drink from the top shelf as much as possible.. the rest of that stuff will eventually just taste like water to you.
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