"Ideal" Image

When it comes to the "perfect" body type we all have similar opinions on what we think society wants. Wether it be an hourglass figure, thigh gap, a small waist, etc... Most of the photos and images we see online highly influence us and not only change our perspective on weight, but how we see ourself. Nowadays I feel like body positivity is becoming such an important thing as people are still trying to fit in to these fake ideals on what is the perfect body. I feel it’s important for more people to truly understand how they don’t need to try out the new "one meal" diet or try the new "lose 5 pounds in a day" workout as a way for them to loose the fat they so highly despise. So many people are caught up in their appearance and it’s not only holding them back from great opportunities but it’s effecting their mental health in the long run. It’s going to be difficult at first to accept that you don’t need to force yourself into becoming what you see as perfect to fit in because you are already and always will be the ideal body type. And finding the confidence to accept that won’t come easily but having skinny legs, cellulite, curves, or a flat chest just makes you perfect as an individual and just doing you confidently makes you one of the most beautiful people around. Don’t feel pressured into becoming something you're not because you're already amazing.

We live in a world where changing yourself, whether that be surgery to perfect your nose, bum, boobs, etc... is so hyped. Some people feel like they need to change certain things about them to fit into society’s standards. They feel like certain parts of them self aren’t good enough and that really upsets me that some people have to go through that. I understand that self love is extremely difficult for people, even for me. I constantly look in the mirror looking at my flaws and this has become a daily thing. So within trying to help myself I’ve decided to bring you guys along with me. I thought it wouldn’t be fair for me to be telling you that everything’s fine and that you can just feel better within a few days. Because this is something that is mentally and emotionally draining but you will get through this. However, it isn’t okay for me to tell you information I don’t believe myself. I could easily write a full blog about self confidence, metabolisms, diets etc.. but instead I’ve decided to share my inner thoughts.

The past days, I binged nearly every night just eating food upon food upon food. It’s been around five days of doing this and I’m so determined to make a change as the physical effects are starting to show and my confidence is slowly drifting. I felt so bad after eating so much and I just couldn’t stop but I began to realise the situation wasn’t as bad as I thought. I started to realise my unhealthy perspective on food and restrictions. The more I restricted, the more I craved later on a night and the more I ate. I always want to be healthy and fit, just to make myself look more like the models in the books. But the more I thought into the reasons I wanted to eat and look a Certain way the more I realised the unhealthy relationship I’d created. I know many people won’t read this due to how much I’m going to write but I just hope I’ll be able to help at least one person. We can get through this. No matter how much I tried to tell myself it’s okay to have a week of just eating whatever, I couldn't believe it. No matter how many times I tell myself I look perfect and I shouldn’t change a thing, I can’t believe it. No matter how many times I try to love my flaws, I can’t. Just being surrounded by so many influences from magazines to social media push me further into this problem. But I will get out, I will defeat these thoughts. So for the next few days I’m not going on social media. I’m going to post this blog and leave my socials until the 1st of December. I feel like everyone needs a brake just to get back into the motivational mindset to remember the things you love and adore most, without distractions.

When it comes to weight it effects more people than you might realise. Food is such a normal thing, a necessity but at times it’s so difficult to understand. Our minds can take the numbers of calories off a packet and change them into such a negative thing that could effect our whole day. It effects people of all ages, genders, sizes and colours. The struggles don’t discriminate and will effect most people at some point in their life. When I was younger, food didn’t bother me I thought nothing of what I put into my body however; over the years things changed. The more models and images I saw of these "ideal" women the more I focused on becoming them instead of becoming the perfect me. The one thing I do now is, when I wake up I go to the mirror, pick one thing I like about myself and just take it all in. Just try and understand that I am in fact perfect and that goes for inside and out. In school I just look at people and wonder, how are you so perfect? It’s just a shame it’s so hard to believe when telling yourself. Everyone is so beautiful in their own ways, everyone’s so different, so unique, so perfect. You are perfect!

If there’s anything I’ve learned in the last few days it’s that it wouldn’t do us any good having to focus on trying to fit in on a daily. Everyone’s different for a reason. Wether you be good at sports, dancing, music, makeup, law, history. We are all unique and that’s what makes us so amazing! No one should ever have to feel like they aren’t big/small enough! For a start who even decides what’s classed as skinny or fat. No one should be put into any group of classification due to their weight. Every body is a swimsuit body and I stand by that. Being tall, short, having cellulite, love handles, big thighs, small hips is just another thing that makes you, you. And you are beautiful inside and out ❤️