How to be happy?

In these troubled times it is more than necessary to read an article about happiness, because many of us have forgotten to be happy and do not even know how to reach happiness, so in this article you will find some steps to achieve happiness.

First of all, it is very important how we interpret the events around us, through a proper interpretation we can get to focus on positive events, so we reach the state of happiness.

What is happiness?

Happiness is a positive emotional experience of one’s life. When you think about your own life, you mean the past, the present, and the future. So, to be happy, you have to be: satisfied with the past, as happy as possible in the present and optimistic about the future.

Why is happiness important?

The most important thing is that it can increase life expectancy by about 10 years. It has been found that smoking reduces life expectancy by about 3 to 10 years, so advise smokers: if you smoke, at least try to be happy.

What are the causes of happiness?

genetic factors — about 50%

- life circumstances (what happens to you) — about 10%

- psychosocial factors — about 40%: health and a healthy lifestyle, social networks, marriage (increases life expectancy by about 7 years for men and 4 for women), religion / culture, money are important to the upper-middle level (After this level, more money does not bring happiness, but can bring more trouble).

Thus, the ideas that happiness is associated with events in life, money, climate, age, etc., are false.

According to the famous American psychologist Martin Seligman, happiness has three components:

Happiness produced by what you do (eg going out with friends, shopping, cooking, etc.) — pleasant life.

Happiness produced by the fulfillment or satisfaction of personal desires that express our strengths as individuals (eg, the realization of a project) — good life.

Happiness produced by the fulfillment of transpersonal desires (norms, values assumed by us and the community) — meaningful life.

All three components are important for a happy life, but the most stable and powerful is meaningful life.

Next, we will go through all the steps to become happier, so we can probably live 10 more years.

How can you be happy with the past?

If the past doesn’t satisfy you, you need to make some changes. The past is impossible to change. But here are some things you can do to be satisfied:

Forgive those who have wronged you, if possible you can call them “I FORGIVE YOU”.

Recognize the mistakes you made. If possible, ask forgiveness from the people you have wronged. There is a chance that they will not forgive you, but you can at least be reconciled that you did everything that depended on you in this regard. What you can say is, “FORGIVE ME.”

Be grateful to those who helped you, if you can thank them, the key word is “THANK YOU”.

Love those who matter: tell them “I LOVE YOU”.

How can you be happy now?

You have to do things that bring you pleasure, first of all you have to make a list of 10 things that we like and implement these activities. Some people are unaware of the activities they enjoy.

You need to make realistic wishes that correspond to the strengths you have as an individual. It is very important that these beliefs be formulated in preferential terms (“I prefer to….”, Or “I would prefer others to….”, “I would like to… ..”) and not in absolutist / rigid terms. (“I have to”, “I have to”, “Life has to be easy and I can’t conceive of it that way”), it is irrational.

It is very important to know your values ​​and to implement them in your daily life. Many people can generate a list of values, but do not implement them in their daily lives.

The scientific recipe for happiness:

Adopt behaviors that give us pleasure, but do not have major costs in the long and medium term. Some examples: playing sports, going out with friends…

Have personal and transpersonal desires: a healthy lifestyle, develop satisfying relationships, get involved in professional or life projects that express the strengths you have as a person, be aware of the values ​​you have and implement them ( knowledge, altruism, honor, fairness, intelligence, tradition, respect for value, humor, fun, environmental protection), which should be formulated correctly, in preferential terms, accepting that it may not always be fulfilled.

The psychological pill of happiness:

Do what you love, but don’t get hurt!

Get involved in personal projects!

Build a minimal social network!

Build meaning and significance by assuming values ​​and relationships!

Change what you don’t like!

Accept what you can’t change!

Make the difference between changing what you don’t like and accepting what you can’t change!

Exercises for happiness:

Make a list of 10 behaviors that will make you happy and that you will do next month.

Set personal goals such as: improving health, developing social networks (more frequent interactions with the family), implementing realistic projects.

Set goals and a grid of values.