Good feelings that stop at speculation

This is true.

Guessing and guessing will only add unnecessary worries.

Unfortunately, mediocre people are bothering themselves.

Instead of guessing, it is better to say something straightforward and communicate properly.

1.

When you fall in love, you will inevitably hear the phrase "If you love me, how can you not know what I'm thinking".

To be honest, I love you again, I am not you, how can I guess what you are thinking?

Each person's heart thinks what, only their own most clear, the next person guesses to guess actually can not guess what.

Although there are many techniques to help us to observe others, to better guess what others are thinking, guessing is ultimately just a guess, not to be taken seriously, once or twice right, does not mean that always right.

In life, there are more instances where the relationship is affected by guessing than by guessing and getting better.

Once you start guessing, the deeper the feelings will also appear cracks, seemingly a small love between the couple, but is the beginning of suspicion, invariably affecting each other's trust.

Like a time bomb, there is always the possibility of an explosion, either this second or the next second.

When the situation is confused, the onlooker is clear, in the bureau can not see the problem, and so ended only slowly see.

A relationship, guess to guess, goes to the end, the only thing left is endless suspicion, and "apart" has become the inevitable end.

Don't use "guess" to detect his love for you, "love" guessing over the head, is only counterproductive.

No one wants a partner who needs to guess every day.

2.

It is said that there is something to say, do not hide.

But most people do not do well on this point, they either feel that the other side understands that there is no need to say it directly, or feel that it is too clear to hurt feelings.

Are self-righteous, to their thoughts to guess others, but did not think to ask, the original simple things complicated.

I have a friend who broke up some time ago, crying and telling me that her ex-boyfriend was a scumbag.

She and her ex-boyfriend dating for 3 years, and the number of quarrels break up is increasing year by year, each time her ex-boyfriend took the initiative to seek peace.

At that time, she always loved to say how much her boyfriend loved himself, little pointers to be able to guess what is in their minds as if the "guess" was a couple of fun.

But this time they broke up, the problem is also in the "guess". She gave her boyfriend another test, I thought he would be the same as usual guess out, which though he excused himself very busy, told her not to bother him.

The two quarreled, one said in anger to break up, and the other agreed.

Later she tried to get back together, but cried and fussed, but to no avail.

She suspected that there was a third party, I wanted to tell her to reflect on herself, but also understand that at this time to say anything, she could not listen.

I have long told her that couples should not always guess, not only waste time, but also waste energy, but she always said I am not interested and do not understand the small games played between couples.

Now, play too much, and then want to go back to the old days, I'm afraid it is very difficult.

She thought that guessing to play the love interest, but did not know that it is easy to increase the conflict.

You do not say, I do not say, all rely on "guessing" to maintain the relationship, and in the end, will only be countless misunderstandings.

Instead of this, it is better to say what you have to say, when the communication is good, do not "think" to speculate on other people's ideas.

There is time to engage in so much "you guess I guess", rather than openly and honestly communicate well, talk openly, it is clear.

3.

The good feelings, can not afford to be tested again and again.

At first, it was fun, but over time it became a contradiction, sooner or later there will be an outbreak of the day when it is very difficult to redeem fear.

The human heart is the most difficult to speculate on, if this is the standard to consider love and not love, I am afraid that most people are not qualified.

And not someone else's stomach roundworm, which may be a guess and accurate.

Some things are guessed for a long time, the feelings are scattered.

Don't use guessing to test the sincerity of others, you think it's a test, but others will feel their feelings are questioned, even if he eventually guessed what you think, but you also consumed his love for you.

Should be the saying "do not make will not die" feelings too made, it is difficult to go to the end, rather than guess guess guess, rather than directly say.

There are things to say, that is the key to maintaining a long relationship.

The first thing you need to do is to make sure you're not making mistakes in your relationship.