Getting disrespected lately

I don’t get disrespected a lot because I’m fortunate to be in a position where I don’t need to interact with a lot of people and I really don’t care about interacting with a lot of people. Its clear that the more you interact with people, the higher the chances of you being disrespected and so that’s why I don’t get that much of it in my life. Recently I got to work on a project with a young friend of mine and ended up facing alot (not that much) disrespect from him but I just chose to ignore it. I’ve already written a piece about disrespect and how to avoid it so I won’t go back to that but here I’ll just bring back some important points on how to avoid getting disrespected.

Respect is not requested

Its always funny to me to see some people who would ask to be respected, once you have to ask for respect then you’ve already missed the plot. The only thing you have to ask others is what they should start or stop doing but not that they should respect you. Respect is something that should come naturally like admiration or inspiration, how many times do you hear a person ask others to admire him or be inspired by him. Personally I’ve never heard someone say that, its because we all know its something natural that should happen and not something which should be forced upon other people.

I’ll not really go into why a person might disrespect another person because there is a huge plethora of reasons but rather I’ll outline for you the things you are lacking which might incite people to disrespect you. A person can disrespect another either instinctively or voluntarily and for the former it happens when they don’t see things worthy of respect. Many societies for the most part share common traits for what we deem to be worthy of respect and with the world being more and more globalized, these have only become much more common.

Traits worthy of respect

Wealthy, Intelligence, Physical strengthen, Composure, Dressing style, Parents, Character, Integrity, Kindness, Humility, Courage, Hard work, Generosity, Wisdom, Loyalty, Self-Discipline, Emotional Intelligence etc.

When people see and are able to identify any or a combination of these traits in you then it instinctively elicits respect in them for you. The more traits they identify the more respect they give you.

Traits worthy of disrespect

Dishonesty, arrogance, selfishness, hypocrisy, cowardice, irresponsibility, manipulation, greed, cruelty, laziness, close-mindedness, betrayal, ungratefulness, entitlement, rudeness, inconsistency, envy, deceitfulness, stubbornness (without reason), disrespectfulness, lack of self-awareness, gossiping, ignorance (when unwilling to learn), impatience, passive-aggressiveness, disloyalty.

In a similar manner here are the opposite, when people see any of these traits in someone they instinctively know not to show any form of respect for such a person at least not publicly.

Conclusion

If you were wondering why you were getting disrespected then ask yourself if you have any of these traits in you or not. These are unscripted societal rules we are raised with. Whether you like it or not thats just how people will feel, so its now left up to you to determine how you want others to perceive you and interact with you.

If you want to be respected then you will have to get the traits which elicit respect or if you don’t care about being respected then you can contend with having traits which elicit disrespect but what you aren’t going to do is request for the respect of others when you are undeserving of it.

Thanks for reading ☺️