Embracing Mindfulness at 60

Life at 60 has certainly brought me into a fascinating relationship with technology. I've always loved computers, and remember the delights of playing the first Pac Man game! My Kindle is practically my best friend, and historical novels are my favourite form of escape, letting me journey through different times and places without ever leaving my cosy sofa. But beyond the comforting pages of my Kindle, my thoughts about technology are complicated. It's often overwhelming, my mind is continually racing and restless.

As I nurse my husband through his battle with cancer, waiting for his liver transplant, my world feels smaller, often reduced to the size of my phone screen. It doesn't help that we are not supposed to be more than 15 minutes from home, in case he is summoned to the hospital. Between care duties, I've found solace, and admittedly distraction, in creating AI-generated images for my Etsy shop. I love the creativity, the buzz of making something new, something that others find joy in. Yet, my phone is never far away, always within reach, right up until the moment I climb into bed. And though it brings a sense of connection, it's also feeding my overactive mind, keeping me from truly relaxing.

Today, I'm making a promise to myself to practice mindful technology use, not just because it seems to be a new trend but because deep down, I know it's essential. I know that setting boundaries with technology will create a brighter, calmer, healthier future for me, and by extension, my husband. And even my daughter, despite the miles that separate us.

The pledge is simple but powerful, I will consciously put away my phone at least one hour before bedtime. Instead of scrolling, I'll reclaim that precious hour for myself. I'll start another chapter of a gripping historical novel or perhaps try journaling again, reconnecting with my thoughts and feelings away from notifications and endless scrolling.

I'll start small, too, no radical overnight transformations here, just gentle, achievable changes. Maybe I'll charge my phone in another room at night, replacing the temptation to check one more email or play one last game. Instead, I'll allow my tormented mind to slow down, giving space for calm to settle in.

I've tried this kind of mindfulness before, of course, promising myself I'd put the phone away or switch off notifications. And sometimes, it worked beautifully—I'd savour the quiet and marvel at how my mind finally had space to breathe. But then life would throw something unexpected my way, and suddenly I'd find myself reaching again for the comforting distraction of my phone, telling myself it was just for a minute. Before I knew it, that one minute stretched into an hour, and I was right back where I started, restless and overwhelmed.

Perhaps, in time, this new habit will inspire me to step outside more often, even if it's just a few quiet minutes in the garden, taking slow breaths of fresh air. Something I rarely do, but the British weather doesn't help! Nature might become my new ally, gently reminding me there's more to see and feel beyond the digital glow. Small steps, yes, but meaningful ones.

This mindful technology practice isn't just about better sleep or reduced stress, though those alone are priceless gifts. It's about finding a deeper peace within myself, creating moments of stillness amid life's uncertainties. It's about being fully present during these precious days with my husband, savouring our time together without digital distractions.

And though my daughter lives far away and our visits are rare, perhaps this new mindfulness will enrich our connection too. Instead of hurried texts, or WhatsApp conversations, maybe I'll write her thoughtful emails or letters filled with stories, insights, and genuine moments from my quieter, more grounded life. Who knows, perhaps my mindful habits will inspire her to embrace a gentler pace herself. Although, she too, is obsessed with her PC, and as a graphic designer, needs no excuse to sit endlessly at her desk!

So, my promise to myself today, is this pledge of mindful technology use. It could be seen as a gift to myself, to restore my well-being and inner peace. It should also help those around me, showing them a calmer, happier, more aware version of myself. Because I deserve that. We all do.