Celebrate Being Single

Didn't get any Valentine's gifts or messages yesterday, huh? The hopes you held that someone whom you really admire, or that hope of a gorgeous looking mystery person who secretly admires you from a distance, or that hope that the partner who recently left you, yet whom you are still deeply in love with, any of these would've possibly used yesterday as the perfect opportunity to offer you their heart, sweep you off your feet, guide you into a wonderful relationship, and help you rediscover love once again, all completely dashed. Here you are, yet again, on a Monday morning, feeling sad, lonely, rejected, unloved, and depressed, having had to endure another Valentine's Day without a loving, dedicated, caring, faithful, and supportive, partner by your side. All you want is to be loved by that one special person, to rediscover that warm and reassuring feeling of being touched, kissed, and cuddled. You look around and see all your friends with partners, all these other people on social media sharing their pictures of themselves and their partner kissing, enjoying eachother's company, and having all sorts of great fun together. Life and love are just completely unjust and unfair, hey? To be loved, appreciated, treasured, supported, and truly cared for, is one of the best feelings we could ever experience in life, I can't deny that. When in a relationship, knowing that someone is there by our side, accepting us for who we are, faults, blemishes, bad habits, and all, it's pretty special. Even just that feeling of someone pressing their tender lips up against ours, kissing us with pure love in their heart, or even just that warm embrace of a hug, it's magical. For some of us, we just cannot handle the thought of not being in a relationship, we just have to experience those feelings I mention above, and we just simply have to have that special someone by our side.

Okay, so we've got all the "feeling sorry for ourselves" crap out of our system, now it's time to drag you out of this destructive mindset you find yourself in. As much as experiencing true love as being that wonderful feeling that it is, more often than not, the focus we have on finding love, ends up being to our detriment. We make mistakes out of being blinded by love. We return to our ex partner, even though they are an ex for a reason. We pick out someone random, and enter swiftly into a relationship, without taking the opportunity to get to know them better first. We become desperate, and we start acting differently to the true person we really are, in a bid to attract the attention of someone. We start sleeping around with multiple people, in hope that sex would transition into love and a relationship. With each of these scenarios, what starts off as looking like we have found the solution to our starvation of love and companionship, ends up becoming a situation that has us feeling worse than we did prior to entering into the relationship. We start experiencing the same negative issues with our ex, as we did prior to the break up, or we start getting to know that random someone better as time goes on, and they end up becoming someone who regularly hurts us, abuses us, or is just a really bad fit for us, or we start returning to our true self, and the partner we fooled into falling for the fake version of ourselves, ends up becoming disappointed and unhappy with the true us, and leaves us, or we sleep around with multiple people and become someone is used, but never loved. You cannot force or hurry love. In fact, one thing I have learned in my time, as many people can relate to I'm sure, is that when you are desperate for finding love, and constantly searching for it, it's never there and you constantly get rejected, but when you shift your focus away from love and instead focus on yourself, that special person often comes into your life, just when you least expect it.

Change your mindset! What is honestly so bad about being single? Okay, sure, it would be nice to have that intimacy, love, and companionship, but like everything else in life that us humans are guilty of, we are always focusing on what we don't have, rather than what we do. We are so ungrateful and unappreciative of what we already have, that it leads us to becoming sad, miserable, upset, frustrated, and angry. We don't have that brand new car that other people have, we don't have that brand new house that other people have, we don't have wealth like other people have, we don't have all the new technological gadgets that other people have, we don't have nice furniture like other people have, and so on. The truth is, you will never obtain what you desire in life, if you first don't have a true appreciation and contentment for what you already do have. You might not own your own house, but you at least have a roof over your head, and shelter to keep you safe from the elements. You might not have a brand new car, but you still have a car that gets you from A to B. You might not be wealthy, but you still have money that provides food on the table, a roof over your head, and enough to pay for the various bills. Appreciate and be grateful with what you have. Being single is no different! Stop focusing on all the things you don't have by not being in a relationship, and start focusing on all the blessings you do have in being single. The best thing about single is you can live your life without having to answer to someone else. You have complete freedom, you only have the responsibility of looking after yourself, you get the whole bed to yourself, you can go out with your friends whenever and not have to explain where you are going, who with, or what you are doing, and you get to focus on what you want out of life rather than having to compromise on it. You don't have those regular disagreements and arguments over petty stuff, as you do in relationships. You don't have the pressure of having to prove your worth to anyone else, but yourself. The world is your oyster.

With anything in life, what we choose to focus on, and where we choose to direct our mindset, dictates to how we feel and behave, If we choose to focus on being lonely and starved of love, then naturally, we are going to waste our life away feeling sad, miserable, and depressed, but if we choose to focus on our goals, and designing the best possible future for ourselves, we will feel motivated, inspired, determined, and positive. Single life gives you that unique opportunity to focus on you, and you only, with no strings attached and no conditions. Learn to fall in love with yourself, and the great person you are becoming, by working on yourself and working towards your goals. Being single means you are avoiding the prospect of getting hurt from a potential relationship or marriage breakdown, and we all know how common these are in life, and we also know how incredibly painful these circumstances are to deal with. Once in a relationship, life no longer becomes all about you, it becomes all about the two of you, and then when children come along, it becomes all about family, so it highlights the importance and value of the time you have being single. So if you're feeling sad and miserable today, or constantly feeling depressed that you don't have that special love in your life, or you're missing out on all the blessings a relationship can bring, it's time to adjust your mindset. I can't do that for you, nor can anyone else, but you! You are choosing to be sad and miserable in life, and you don't deserve that, no one does! Take this opportunity to establish a goal in your life, something that will completely transform your life into one of complete success, happiness, fulfillment, and prosperity. What do you believe is your purpose in life? How can you make a positive difference in the lives of others? This is your time to shine, a time that is all about you, and when the right time presents itself, that special person will come into your life, when you least expect it. Be someone who is positive minded, vibrant, inspiring, generous, kind, and supportive, because you want to attract like minded people into to your life after all. So from now on, no more sadness in being single, it's time to celebrate being single. Go out and create your own happiness!

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