Bouncing Back

Feel your feelings

You can start by telling yourself, “I’m angry and that’s okay. All feelings are valid. I’m not defined by my feelings.” Your feelings at this moment don’t dictate your entire life and certainly don’t dictate your future. Feelings tell you where your boundaries are. Whether you need more sleep, to shift your thoughts, or even shift your life path. Your feelings are often helpful tools for redirection of attention.

Take a nap

Sometimes I get so frustrated and upset that I don’t even want to do anything. There’s no amount of reframing or positive thought that I can use to redirect my thoughts or even gaslight myself into peace. Everything I’ve learned about cultivating positive thoughts is out the window. This is normal. Especially, when you get deep into assuming there’s distance between yourself and where you want to be. There isn’t any shame in it. If I don’t want to reach for a good feeling thought, and I have the opportunity to do so, I will just go to sleep.

Get out of your head

I’m not suggesting yelling at yourself by saying, “get over itttt!!” Lol. Maybe after your nap, you can engage your senses. You go for a walk and pay attention to what’s around you. The animals, the flowers, the plants. One by one: what do I see, feel, smell, hear, and maybe even taste (???). Ground yourself and appreciate all that is around you.

Get present

Have some go-to’s that bring you back to feeling at peace. That go-to where there could be a burning building behind you and you’d still be blissful as hell. Something that helps your mind feel calm and fully in the moment. Most days for me, that is dancing and singing. I think art is major therapy for a lot of us. Play around with different mediums to find out what works for you. Have them prepared ahead of time.

Look at what’s going well or accept what isn’t

What was going well before you got upset? What is going well in your life? What are other people doing well? How many blessings do you have? There is something we prefer in almost every situation and every person. Find it and hang on to it. And if finding the good isn’t something you want to do, remind yourself that you are allowed to accept situations as they are. How can you see what isn’t going well as something that is actually working in your favor? You are only responsible for yourself. It isn’t really a scenario of “good” or “bad” but a different perspective, and that’s okay!

Look at your strengths

Sometimes we don’t have the energy to express gratitude for everything around us because we haven’t been giving ourselves the credit we deserve. Fill yourself up first. Focus on how well YOU are doing. Which of your accomplishments are you most proud of? What makes you the happiest? How much have you grown? How proud are you of where you are right now? You can write a gratitude list about yourself.

Manifestation List/Vision Board

After this process, I like to go back to what my goals are. Nothing gets me back into feeling good like getting focused on what I want and knowing it’s already mine. Maybe I’m crying but I can calm myself down when I remember all the goodness I deserve and bring my attention back to that. Most of our anger and disappointment comes from believing we can’t have what we want or life has to be difficult.Use your vision board or manifestation list to bring you back to what you’re on earth for. Say it in the present tense.

If it resonates, that’s great. And if it doesn’t, that’s great too. Please take what resonates and leave what doesn't. Lots of love to you!

❤Jessica