Being a Young Adult

I don't remember exactly how many times I was asked "what do you want to be when you grow up" but I know it was a lot. When I was younger my answers always consisted of "I want to be a Doctor, or a Vet". But as I got older that quickly became "I don't know". You go through all of these career tests and quizzes when you are in high school. I'm not quite sure what purpose those served. was it to give us option or to tell us what we needed to be? Because without fail, at the end of each one I would get my results and feel way more confused than I did before starting it.

I have always been someone to love more than one thing. I love cosmetology, also like to work with kids. But then again, I'm really good at art too. So, when I got asked the dreaded question once again after I graduated high school "what do you want to be when you grow up". This time, I think I truly understood the pressures everyone puts onto young adults to figure out what they want to be for the rest of their lives when they still don't know yet.

Now, yes there are some young adults who know exactly what they want to do, and who they want to be since they were little. That is great and I applaud them for knowing so young. But what about the rest of us. Because when I look at colleges and the majors of over half the student body on campus, they are either undecided or going for general studies. Even if someone has a major picked out, it is a proven fact that more than half of them will end up changing that major to something completely different.

When a young adult enters the world after high school, they are given little to no help. We are expected to take off and just go. We are "adults" by now right? This is wrong, we are just now figuring out how to cope on our own. We don't know half of what being and adult means. We probably don't even know how to even pay bills yet. Luckily at a young age I was taught about all of this. I was given guidance and I truly believe that has made me into the person I am now, well besides being parented by a very strong-willed mother.

When you are learning to be an adult, figuring out what you want to be is only part of it. Not only will people start to live on their own, or go to college but now, Love and relationships are part of the equation. We all think we have love figured out in high school when we get that very first boyfriend or girlfriend. But in all honesty, none of us know what we are doing. Some of us still don't know what we are doing and that’s okay. It takes years to find that perfect fit. I love to take my mom and stepdad as an example. They met in their late 30s. But I have never seen a better match. There is not one single fight, they love each other unconditionally and most importantly they know each other like the back of their hands. I know what love is supposed to be and how it’s supposed to look. It has just taken me longer to find it.

So, when it comes to "adulting" no one really knows how to do it. Not even your parents. everyone is still learning as this crazy world changes around us. Anything can happen at any minute that can make you second guess yourself. Guess what, that's okay. We are all learning and taking day by day.