A woman who truly loves herself never commits herself, but knows how to cultivate the four abilities to love herself

In life, everyone needs to understand that in fact, a woman who loves herself never condescends to herself, condescension is a state that stays in the inner child, and a woman who loves herself knows how to adjust her inner heart, and knows how to cultivate the four abilities of self.

First, learn to express themselves

If a person wants to learn to love themselves, the most important thing is to learn to express themselves first, express themselves is also a very important ability. How many people ignore their expression, not only makes themselves difficult, but also because there is no expression, but may allow others to form a solidified impression and perception of us.

People who truly love themselves know how to express themselves fully, and this full expression of themselves is, in a way, a release of the self and a process of respecting themselves in a very appropriate way.

Expressing oneself is an attitude and declaration of self, expressing oneself is not a kind of expression of losing one's temper, expressing oneself is a kind of unassuming and unobtrusive, conveying one's inner voice, which is fundamental to our growth and achievement of self.

When you know how to express yourself, you can become your true self. People's feelings are very different, and their feelings are often the presentation of their perspectives.

When we know how to express ourselves bravely, some aspects of our inner wisdom are also mapped. People who love themselves know how to express themselves, and this is a sign that we respect ourselves.

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Second, learn to accept

Women who know how to love themselves also know how to accept, accepting from a certain point of view is a kind of courage. We all know the importance of giving.

But it is also good to learn to accept, acceptance is a kind of worth and affirmation of themselves. When a person has a sense of scarcity inside, he is afraid to accept the help and gifts of others.

But a person who dares to accept help from others understands that people need to help each other. To help others is to help oneself.

So learning to accept is a kind of knowing. True love is a flow, not only giving but also inflowing. The essence of the so-called love-full overflow is to have love flowing to ourselves continuously so that we can feel sufficient love and we will be willing to give love.

People who know how to accept will also ask for help when they can't do something themselves, they won't think they are not independent if they ask for help, precisely because they don't have a label on them to bind themselves, then their self-life will have more room to grow with ease.

No one is an island, people who know how to accept will have more strength and energy to give because they will not be afraid to give if there is harm, but know that people and people are a mutual need.

Third, be true to yourself

Authenticity is more powerful than anything else, I think, therefore I am. In this world, there is never an identical leaf, which also means that each of us is unique.

By accepting your uniqueness, you will dare to be true to yourself. Being true to yourself is a natural strength, and it will also make us aspire and grow more in life.

When you are being true to yourself, you will experience that a good life is one in which you affirm yourself. Often, we are afraid to express ourselves, we think we are small and so we think there is something wrong with our expressions.

Any expression is a reflection of our inner world, and our willingness to contribute our efforts to explore and grow is a way to best honor ourselves.

No one is mature at the beginning, teenagers have the vigor of teenagers, just like how sharp Han Han's writing was when he was young, but when he reached middle age, he also started to become mellow.

This also means that our human nature is changing, we express ourselves based on our knowledge of the world at the time, along with the deeper our experience and commitment to the world, our experience, and feeling of a thing will be different.

Fourth, learn to reject people

As women grow, we also need to know how to reject people. Rejection is good protection for the self and a way to explore and recognize the self.

When we are growing up, knowing how to reject those unreasonable expectations is essentially a kind of responsibility for the self. Good growth is to tell ourselves that we can only be responsible for our own lives.

And facing all those excessive demands can put our life under endless pressure. When you realize that life is a space where you are free to make your own decisions, you may understand that growth is about focusing on self-creation, helping others if you have the energy to do so, or rejecting others if you don't have the energy to do so.

To reject others is not to not love them, but on the contrary, it is an expression of love for others and ourselves. True love always includes rejection.

Rejection is a form of respect for oneself and others. Those who are always difficult for you are not necessarily good people, and those who are good people tend not to be difficult for you, this is a law.