Day 18 of My 40 Day Fast: The Sexual Revolution Is Out of Control

It’s hard not to think about sex when it’s everywhere. The sex scenes in the shows we watch have evolved into soft-core porn. Images of scantly clad people are on magazine covers and billboards to sell products. Sex is in the music playing on the airwaves, in our headphones, and in music videos.

Universities are a place to nourish minds and there pervades a culture of casual sex. Society encourages us to ‘sow our wild oats’, or to have as much sex as possible, before settling down with one person for the rest of our lives.

Porn is easily accessible on the internet. The amount of money a woman can make by posting images of her body online is indicative of how obsessed we've become with sex.

When sex is reduced to a physical act, it leads to short-term happiness. The pleasure is short-lived, which makes us seek it out again and again trying to satiate an insatiable craving. Short-term happiness will never be satisfied, because short-term happiness is when one seeks happiness outside of themselves. Happiness is a feeling that comes from within, and cultivating happiness within produces long-term happiness.

When we seek short-term happiness through anything external, such as substances, food, or sex, we build a tolerance to them. In order to reach gratification we have to have more, and we enter into a slippery slope that can lead to addiction if left unchecked.

In terms of sex, when we reduce it to a physical act, reaching gratification can become increasingly difficult. What once brought pleasure no longer does. This can lead to lewd and debasing sexual acts to add excitement. When we toy with the part of our minds that says something is wrong or bad it brings a thrill factor.

Certain types of porn that once worked become boring and the search for something more hard core begins.

Intimacy with one partner becomes uninteresting, which keeps us forever on the search for the next willing partner.

When it comes to reaching out to sex for happiness or gratification, it will always be a short-term happiness.

This is why traditionally people got married at a young age, because we get curious about sex in our teens and early 20s. Now we get married later, and we satisfy our sexual curiosity along the way.

Is there a balance between a sexually-repressed society and what we have now?

They both ultimately stem from the same misunderstanding. Sex becomes a problem when we lose touch with ourselves. Sex is not a physical act. Sex is a spiritual act. We can only truly understand this when we realize we are not just physical beings; we are spiritual beings.

The choice is to either continue seeking short-term happiness, which is never-ending, or to cultivate long-term happiness within.

The process of learning who you actually are requires doing inner work. We are spiritual beings, and we are all pieces of the same thing. There is an inter-connectedness between us. When you ascend spiritually, you raise the energy within you to vibrate higher. A high-vibe individual is one who operates out of happiness.

Raising your energy requires protecting your energy. Others who are not working on themselves will prevent you from ascending spiritually. They will bring you down.

Sex is a spiritual act that occurs between two spiritual beings. When we are intimate with an individual, we expose our energy to the other and an exchange of energy occurs. Depending on who you are intimate with, if they are low-vibe they can bring your energy down. If they are struggling with demons, that can also leech onto you. When we have casual flings and one night stands we are unaware of what we are inviting into our lives.

Being that we are spiritual beings, an emotional component in sex is necessary. Emotion activates the sacral chakras, which is highly arousing and leads to a much more satisfying sexual experience. The sacral chakra does not activate when sex is purely physical.

There is a difference between shutting down your urges and telling yourself they’re bad or wrong, and discovering who you truly are within. Self-discovery requires sitting with yourself everyday and silencing the mind’s chatter. Spend time with yourself. It’s the best investment one can make.

A lack of self-control is a weakness, and you show that off to the world each time your urges gets the better of you. It takes a lot work to master yourself. A healthy mentally strong individual does not give in to every passing whim.