5 Ways To Improve Your Self Worth

Everyone has their definition of self worth, used interchangeably with self esteem, self worth is defined as a sense of one's own value as a human being. It can also be seen as the internal sense of being good enough and worthy of love and belonging from others.

Due to the constant influx of information we experience on a daily basis, many people find themselves lost in a loop of comparing themselves to the perfect lives put forward by their 'idols'. This leaves them dissatisfied with themselves and the lives they live.

So let's look at ways we can break free from this loop and regain our sense of self worth.

1. Treat Yourself To A Brutal Self Examination

When individuals feel worthless, nine out of ten times, they just have some inner demons or personal issues they struggle to come to terms with. These hindrances can be physical, mental, social or even spiritual. This is where the brutal self examination comes in.

You've got to be completely honest with yourself. Take a pen and paper, write down things your good at and things you know could use a little bit of work. It's ok if the negatives outweigh the positives. This is because when we look at ourselves, we see our flaws rather than our perfections.

So now, your job is to look at all the negatives and start working consciously towards changing them into positives. This could be working on your body, improving your public speaking skills or just switching up your style. Remember, the goal is to feel confident in yourself so once you are able to see some outward changes, you'll feel a spark of self worth.

If your positives far outweigh the negatives, just focus on those points to constantly remind yourself of the amazing person you are.

2. Improve Your Communication Skills And Build Positive Relationships

The ability to relate and connect with others on a whole nother level is key in this century. It can open doors and lead to opportunities you never thought were in reach.

You see that feeling you have after a conversation that didn't really go as planned. You think of a million other ways you could have made it a whole lot better through other choices you could've made. Do you know the difference between the actual conversation and the mini review, it's your mindset and composure. During the convo, you become tensed up. Thoughts of messing run through your head and you get nervous. Remember, we're all human, nobody will murder you for messing up, it actually makes you more relatable as a person.

So there are basically two things I would advice you to do if you want to improve your comm skills. First, pick a few people you admire in terms of communication and try to mimic the way they interact with others. They could be celebrities, friends or close family. The goal is to get a role model to mimic. Second, Just Practise. Practise when you're alone, in the shower, Infront of a mirror. Play out scenarios in your head and see how you'd react. This is just to improve your ability to think on your feet in real life scenarios.

3. Start Using Common Sense

We are all becoming zombies to technology and peer pressure, doing things just because it's it's trendy or everyone's doing it. Although some of trends are worth the time and contribute to improving your well-being, others are just senseless. So this is where you begin to use nature's free gift to mankind, Your Common Sense.

Before engaging in an activity or a trend, stop and ask yourself why others are doing it. Is it adding genuine value to their lives or are they just looking for clout. Remember, the last thing we want is to blend in with everyone to the point where we can not point out what makes us special. So next time you're want to follow the crowd, think for a moment and ask yourself why is everyone doing what they are doing and once you've made the right choice, you'll feel way more confident in your abilities because you actually have a solid motive backing you up.

4. Consume Less, Create More

Put yourself out there, add value to the world we live in. Don't just be a spectator observing things as they go on, consuming an endless amount of content till death. If that were the case why wouldn't you feel like crap. What you really need to do is to look at ways you can contribute to making the lives of others better. For instance, look at things you're good at, it could be a second language, a skill you have, an instrument you know how to play, and just teach it.

How does this improve your self worth? In most cases it takes us to see that people find value in us and the services we provide before we're able to find value in ourselves. Who knows, you could even be the solution to the problem millions of people are facing on a daily basis but we'll never know until you take that initiative. So yes, start that blog, start that YouTube channel, get started on that book and I can assure you that your future self will thank you for this small step you took.

5. Enrich Yourself With Knowledge

This is by far one of the most effective ways of building self worth, enrich yourself with knowledge and experiences. Get to live life through the eyes of others and learn the lessons they learnt without making the mistakes they made. Find topics that spark your interest to learn about. Barrels aren't valued by what they are but by what they hold, hence empty barrels are seen as just that barrels. It's the same with people. Anyone who lacks knowledge and experiences is seen as just that, boring people but once you begin to enrich yourself with experiences and knowledge by reading and exploring, you'll draw value to yourself and guess who will be the first person to notice, You! So start reading today and see how much your self worth will increase by leaps and bounds.

So that's what I have for you today, and remember, nobody has control over the way you feel. You choose to feel the way you feel so start making a conscious effort to be the best version of yourself.