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10 Ways to Build Your Personal Magnetism

The brutal truth is that personal magnetism isn’t just given to people. You can’t just be born with it. It takes some hard work and dedication to get there, but it’s worth the effort. Personal magnetism is the key to success in social interactions, your career, love life, and friendships. So, what are some ways you can build your personal magnetism?

By Phong OG Published 4 years ago 4 min read

We're all aware of the importance of charisma, but it's not always clear to us what type of person is charismatic or how to become one.

Luckily, charisma doesn't have any one solid definition because it's so fluid.

Like attractiveness, you can have a different type of charisma depending on your role in life and who you are interacting with.

Charisma is a potent force that can take over your life if you let it, so you need to know how to harness this source of power.

In this article, we're going to explore 10 ways to build your personal magnetism:

1. Dodge the Peer Pressures of Youth

Being peer pressured is a part of life, but you can avoid being controlled by the group if you know how to maneuver around it.

To be charismatic, you have to become good at dealing with people and social situations.

Accept the fact that you don't need to drink alcohol or believe in the same things as others in order to get along with them.

2. Stop Being Shy

In the beginning stages of life, you might feel the need to be shy. If you're shy, you'll find it difficult to make friends and stay connected with people.

But you'll also find that being charismatic is incompatible with being cautious and timid.

Stop trying so hard to hide your true strengths: if people like someone who's charismatic, then they'll like them for their personality as well as for their looks.

3. Find Your Strength

Every person is unique, which means they have unique abilities. We don't all need to be a leader or the best at something: we just need to figure out what our strengths are and capitalize on them.

Take your time to find out where you shine, because once you do, that's where you should focus your interests and energy.

Be careful though: avoid spending so much time focusing on your strengths that it becomes a weakness.

4. Be Happy

You're only as charismatic as you are when you're happy and at peace. You can be happy in different ways: it doesn't matter if you're an extrovert or an introvert, as long as you're content with who you are and what's happening around you.

The key is to keep at peace even if things get stressful. Let life happen without too much worry about consequences, whether these are good or bad.

5. Be Carefree

When you find yourself in a stressful situation, it's easy to start feeling that you have no control over the things happening around you.

You might start feeling pressure and develop negative beliefs about your well being.

However, when we feel stress, it also causes us to think in destructive ways, we focus on failures or problems instead of successes or solutions.

It's vital that you refuse to let these bad thoughts take over your mindset.

6. Don't Be Overly Critical of Yourself

If you're negative, it can be hard to trust people and reflect positively on yourself. You'll find that people aren't as much interested in your charisma as you think they are.

In order to get them to like you, you need to get over the negative feelings that might have surrounded your self-worth throughout life.

Recognize that there's plenty of good things about you and learn to appreciate the positive qualities of your personality and appearance.

7. Value Yourself

When you value yourself, you can let everyone else know that you're strong and confident.

It doesn't matter if people don't like you, because they'll at least respect how well you make it in this world.

You'll find that your personal magnetism will be able to take care of itself as long as you don't allow yourself to become too confident and then realize that everyone's not into it.

8. Control Your Emotions

Don't let negative feelings like anger or frustration surface and throw off your charisma.

However, there's a difference between being uptight and being concerned about something learn to detach yourself from stressors in order to keep yourself grounded and in control of your emotions.

You'll find that you're much more charismatic when you're able to keep a good attitude regardless of the circumstances around you.

9. Don't Overcompensate

Sometimes, people try to overcompensate for their weaknesses in an attempt to win people over.

However, there are better ways to get people on your side than by lying about what you want or what you're good at.

The best way to be charismatic is by being yourself and letting everyone else accept you for the person you are.

10. Be Nice

The final point to remember about charisma is that people will probably like you for the person that you are, not because of the way you look or what you do.

You can be attractive, but it's unlikely that everyone will be inclined to be attracted to you.

You might even find that not everyone is impressed by your looks in the first place. So remember that you have to be nice before you can be charismatic.

Conclusion

Charisma is a powerful thing that everyone can learn to be more charismatic.

It's not an easy skill to learn and you'll have to work hard at it day after day for a long time, but success is always possible when you put in the effort.

And remember that charisma is something that comes from more than looks: it's about being a trustworthy, confident person who makes friends easily.

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