15 Ways to Tell She Is Just Not Ready for a Relationship

When you find someone who says they're ready for a relationship, be careful not to put all your eggs in one basket.

Here are some quick ways to figure out that she is just not ready for a relationship and the things you should keep in mind when with them.

1. She's chronically late.

This is the number one sign that someone just isn't ready for a relationship. If she's chronically late to everything, she may not be serious about you or anyone for that matter.

If she constantly flakes on you or your plans, then she may not feel comfortable in a relationship because she doesn't know how to maintain a regular schedule (i.e. she's always running late).

If her general behavior starts becoming unruly or disrespectful of others, then there are bigger things at play here and you should most likely move on from this person immediately.

2. She's never there when you need her.

This is quite a huge red flag. If she never seems to be available for your events or special occasions, then she probably isn't serious about you and is probably too busy with her own life to care about yours.

This can also foreshadow that something else may be going on behind the scenes, so it's important to make sure you know what's going on before jumping into a relationship with that person.

3. She has no idea how relationships work.

The first two points don't necessarily mean that someone doesn't want a relationship; they could still just simply not know how one works or how to navigate one properly in time.

If her stories about her past or about her previous relationships do not make sense at all, or if she has no idea how two people work together in a relationship, then this is a sign she's not ready for one right now.

4. She doesn't want to do couple activities.

If she doesn't take part in those couple activities you love to do together, then there's a huge chance this is not a serious relationship she's looking for because she doesn't want to spend time with you at all.

If you're looking for someone who will go along with your own habits and lifestyle, then be careful because you may be getting into something that isn't right for either of you.

5. She acts like your friend rather than your girlfriend or boyfriend.

Even if someone is trying hard to act like a good girlfriend or boyfriend, the fact that they can't act the part shows that they probably aren't ready for a relationship yet.

If she can't act all smoochy and happy with you, then there's a chance she doesn't feel the same way about you that you do.

She's not being honest about her true feelings for you, so take note of that before moving on to the next person who is better for you than her.

6. She doesn't like your friends or family.

If she isn't into your friends or family, then she probably won't be into yours either and isn't at all serious about a relationship with you.

Anyone who isn't into your friends or family is not a relationship person. If someone can't get along with your family, then there's a good chance that they won't like you or even get along with you once they're in a real relationship.

7. She's always running late.

The fact that she's always running late shows that she doesn't take responsibility for her actions and is consequently not serious about a relationship with you.

If this is the case, why would she want to commit to being in a relationship?

She'd rather be watching TV, texting on her phone, reading something online, or doing whatever else she wants to do instead of showing up at what should be an important event for both of you.

If she's always doing things to not show up at an important event, then she probably doesn't feel comfortable being in a relationship.

8. She has no idea what you like to do for fun.

If she doesn't like your hobbies or activities, then she's not being serious about a relationship with you and probably isn't feeling the same way about you as you do for her.

If this is the case, then don't continue to try the relationship because it won't work out for the two of you.

If a person cannot be interested in your hobbies and interests, it means little to no interest from them in having a future with you whatsoever.

9. She's bad with money.

This is a huge red flag. If this person doesn't even know how to manage money and wastes it on things that aren't worth it (i.e. shopping, unnecessary spending, etc.), then this person is most likely not ready for a relationship because she doesn't understand how to handle her funds properly.

She also probably isn't honest with you about what's going on in her life and may be hiding something from you that could jeopardize the relationship later on down the road (i.e. being bankrolled by someone else, someone else paying for things for her so she has no money of her own, etc.).

If she's dishonest with you about something like this, then there's a good chance she will not be honest in other areas of your relationship.

10. She seems to always have a boyfriend or girlfriend on the side.

If she has a boyfriend or girlfriend on the side and doesn't even seem to care about what you think about it, then that person is probably not serious about a relationship with you.

If you're trying to figure out if someone is dating someone else and don't know the answer yourself, then there may be something going on behind the scenes that you aren't aware of yet.

11. She has a habit of always blaming you for things.

If she blames you for everything that happens, then this is a huge red flag.

If she's doing this, then there's no chance that she's going to be able to work with you in a relationship because she will not understand how to handle any disagreements or problems that occur in the relationship and will always blame you for it instead of taking responsibility for her own actions.

If this type of person does not know how to work with her own responsibilities and can't take blame on herself, then why would that person deserve the happiness of being in a relationship?

You're better off without someone like this who will make your life miserable from the get-go.

12. She makes you feel like a consolation prize.

If she is constantly making you feel like you're not good enough in her eyes or that she has better things she could be doing with her time and energy, then there's a good chance she doesn't really see you as a serious partner or chooses to put you in that role because it's easier than actually thinking about moving forward in a relationship with you.

If this is the case, then there's no way this person is going to make life good for both of you because she doesn't value you at all and sees everything as being up for grabs when it comes to being in a relationship with someone else instead of herself.

13. She doesn't seem interested in your career or future.

If she doesn't care about your worries, concerns, and goals, then you can bet that she isn't down for a relationship with you.

If this is the case, then you need to find someone who respects your goals and dreams in life and is willing to work toward them as well.

If she's not interested in your dreams and goals, then there's not going to be any future for the two of you because one of you will always be trying to keep up with the other person when it comes to caring about someone else's interests and goals in life (i.e. working hard at reaching a goal).

14. She hits when she gets angry.

If this person does not know how to handle her own emotions and is not serious about a relationship with you, then there's no way she will be able to make your life good for you.

The fact that she hits without thinking first or realizing it afterward says that this person is never going to be able to take responsibility for her own actions.

If she doesn't think before hitting you when she's really angry, then it's highly unlikely that she will do so in other ways as well (i.e. having a temper tantrum if angry, etc.).

15. She never invites you over to hang out with her friends.

If she doesn't want to introduce you to her friends, then this person is probably not a good fit for you.

If she doesn't care about your friends and interests and doesn't take time to introduce you to them, then this person is most definitely not serious about a relationship with you.

If she isn't even interested in meeting another part of your life, then why would that person be interested in sharing your time and happiness with you?

She'd rather keep things on the downlow and be secretive about her life instead of sharing it with you. If this is the case, it's most likely going nowhere.

Conclusion

When it comes to keeping a relationship going in the right direction and avoiding any red flags or mistakes, sometimes you need to look to the past and learn from your experiences with other people.

If you've had some red flags come up before and learned your lesson, then make sure that you remember what happened in the past in order to learn from it so future relationships can be good for both parties involved.

Remember these things when deciding if someone is serious about a relationship with you.