Why Relationships Fail

I have always been wondering about why people try so hard to get someone they love and after sometime find it difficult to get along with the same person until I read this phrase from the book 'The One: Discovering the Secrets of Soul Mate Love.'

“We need the challenge relationships to provide by calling us out on our prejudices, and we need people – partners, friends, casual acquaintances, and even strangers – who will walk with us as we make our way to our soul’s potential.”

Reading this phrase I realised the reason for failed relationships is wanting a relationship to go smooth and that’s where the issues arise. Whenever you encounter challenges in a relationship, you run to find a haven and ended into another same kind of relationship. But you forget that challenges are essential for growth.

So the only reason I could find for relationship failure is getting into a relationship for the wrong purposes. And when they failed to get what they aimed, the magic starts fizzling

Generally, people fall for some of the following purposes

1. To avoid being lonely

2. To depend on someone for financial freedom

3. To fulfil sexual intimacy

4. To share problems

5. To get love

6. To get happiness

7. To have kids

Or you can include more.

These are the very fundamental reasons you find yourself sharing a life with someone else?

If you think that your relationship is based on one of the above-listed reason then don’t be surprised if it seems to be hanging on at the whims of fate.

By calling these purposes ‘wrong’, I mean you need someone else to make sure you never feel lonely, to make you happy, to sexually available to you whenever you want, to create and raise a new life for you, to make you feel whole, to make you feel complete? And, up to what extent? Think yourself why wouldn’t a relationship fail.

You can’t always control or rely on someone else because the only person you have full control over is yourself. Though your partner can influence you yet they have no control over your emotions and vice versa. You can’t control them from cheating, or an emotional affair with someone else, or changing their sexual drive.