Why Doesn’t Anyone Want to Be My Girlfriend?

You ask yourself (too often): "why doesn't anyone want to be my girlfriend" ?! It takes a lot of time to muster the courage to invite a classmate/schoolmate into town, you think for days about how to tell her, and then all you get is an answer like, "I can't," "I'm going out with someone else." "It's not a good idea," "I just want to be friends," etc. Or do you just get a sarcastic eyebrow lift and a "no, thank you"?

Believe it or not, you're not the only teenager with this problem - far from it. It's all about not taking the answers too seriously and not discouraging girls' ironies - you just know how bad and superficial some teenage girls are… Almost every boy - maybe except the lucky ones with guts and muscles - gets rejected at this age painful… It is part of being a teenager, and adolescence is a difficult time.

If you want some answers and suggestions to the question "why doesn't anyone want to be my friend", read on. But you should know that the situation does not change from one day to the next, just as you do not change easily and quickly and teenage girls do not change either!

Why doesn't anyone want to be my girlfriend:

Self-confidence and courage. Are you naturally modest, quiet, withdrawn and not noisy, and as brave as other guys your age? Do you have any problems with your self-image, the way you look at yourself, and your opinion of yourself?

Do you see only the unattractive parts - and the comments of those around you only exacerbate these bad parts? When you do not trust yourself and when you do not show it to others, it is reflected in your behavior. And a shy and modest boy just doesn't attract a teenage girl! If you only think about flaws and you think beforehand that you invite a girl into the city that she will refuse you - you are already behaving as if you have failed!

Try to convey to those around you that you respect yourself, that you like yourself, that you don't let yourself be complicated by flaws! But for that, you have to work on yourself and improve your opinion about yourself. Although you tend to answer "why doesn't anyone want to be my girlfriend" by "because I look like hell," you should know that it's not just about that - physical appearance comes only after bravery, self-confidence, arrogance - all the features that attract teenagers!

Look around: aren't their guys who aren't very attractive, with the same physical flaws, but who come out with a girl more easily? So, don't give up thinking you look like an ogre !!! This is not the first reason…

Your image and position in the school. A sure answer to the question "why doesn't anyone want to be my girlfriend": because you keep trying and spinning in the same circle, where the girls know you and already have a certain image of you for years!

If you got some nicknames from primary or first-grade class, you unwittingly acquired a certain image of "nerd", "weird", "withdrawn", "dreamer", the girls will still look at you like that, although that image of the past has not characterized you for a long time! The outward appearance of a person is difficult to change, and your colleagues still look at you like the shy, stuttering boy of a few years ago.

You can only change this image over time and if you work to get rid of complexes and shyness - but you can do something else: you can change the environment! Stop trying to conquer girls from school, girls who have known you for a long time. Try to meet other girls and form a different image of yourself - if you try to be more uninhibited.

Where? Accepts any invitations to parties or meetings from neighbors, cousins, former colleagues; go to a cafe with a friend, where you can meet unknown girls of your age and no one will be interested in your invitation (the girls in the "pack" are the worst)!

Superficiality. So are teenagers, but also some teenagers: superficial! I only see the outside: appearance, clothing, and behavior. The good part: things change later when even the girls mature and start to appreciate the inside. But until then, what are you doing?

Girls are not only superficial but also totally illogical: they are attracted only to those guys who are not good for them, to those "bad guys" who make them sigh and suffer! Does it sound so familiar to you: "I just want to be friends" while she's out with another guy? Take advantage of this advantage: when you are told this, just because girls don't think you're "dangerous", you can get closer to them and get to know them more easily as "friends".

So, pretend that this is exactly what you want: a simple friendship! This way, you will get to know the girls, to know what they want, to know what their dreams are, like a nice friend who listens to them! And who knows, then, after one of the "bad guys" makes her cry, maybe you will comfort her, and maybe she will realize that you are, in fact, the best choice! The position of a friend, from the inside, is extremely advantageous (although you would rather be the bad boyfriend)!

Where are you aiming? When you're wondering "why doesn't anyone want to be my girlfriend," think first - where do you aim? Which girls are you looking at?

You always try unsuccessfully to invite the prettiest, most popular girls - mistake: those are "by nature" the most superficial! And if you can't be proud of your attractive physical appearance, unfortunately, at the age of adolescence, you have little chance with such a girl! Focus on the less cute, more withdrawn, shyer, less pleasant, and courteous girls!

You can discover a wonderful girl, even if she is not physically a star! And if you give her confidence, with a little care, attention, makeup, an unattractive girl can turn into a beautiful young woman!

Are you trying too hard? Think about it: aren't you trying too hard? Do you waste more than half your time worrying about what to say to girls, how to approach them, analyzing their reactions? You think too much! Do you behave extremely nicely with them, even when you know you have no chance?

Do you help them with homework, take them home, give them "fitness", etc.? You're too cute and you're trying too hard! They are not attracted to someone who is so obviously dead after them and always willing to help.

On the contrary - they are attracted and instigated by guys who seem disinterested, who ignore them from time to time, and who behave arrogantly! Why - there is no point in wondering, because who will ever understand girls and women?