Why Does the Obsession With Marriage Appear and Why Is This Moment Every Woman’s Dream?

Why do some girls and women have this obsession with marriage, weddings, shiny rings, white dresses, and weddings? The girls grow up with beautiful love stories, in which the princess always marries the prince at the end and they live happily ever after.

The girls are playing in white dresses and imagining their bright wedding, the day when they too will be a happy and beautiful princess. The fantasy of the white wedding is part of the childhood of every girl (almost), who grows up with the idea that happiness involves marriage.

And some women or even young girls, when the fantasy doesn't turn into reality, when they can't find the prince to offer them the dream wedding, when they don't have a stable partner or they have a partner who still doesn't want such a step, they become overly anxious - sometimes to the point of talking about an obsession with marriage!

Because the wedding is in their fantasy the happiest day, the moment when the dream comes true.

About the obsession with marriage:

The idea of ​​getting married means showing that you have value. Sometimes a girl grows up with the idea that a mature woman is made, she is valuable, she is mature only if she gets married "on time". An idea from the past - when unmarried girls over 20 years old were already considered "weird"… And the idea that a valuable woman will get married early persists !).

The idea of ​​being asked in marriage means being wanted and loved. Following the idea above, a certain obsession for marriage, for marriage arises because a woman may think that being asked is equivalent to being wanted, to be beautiful, to be loved, to be attractive.

On the contrary, sitting with a man who doesn't ask you would mean that he doesn't want you enough, that he doesn't consider you good enough - a false idea of ​​course! An unmarried woman can start to feel unwanted from an early age, as if something is wrong with her - and not the fact that she has not met the right partner. He wonders, "Is there anything wrong with me?"

The idea is that if he doesn't ask you in a few years, the relationship won't go anywhere. Women need to know "where we are going, where the relationship is going" - a stressful question for their partners, especially when it is addressed prematurely…

And if a relationship lasts two or three years and she sees that the partner has no intention of engagement, if he avoids talking about marriage and says he is not ready yet, she begins to ask questions, to believe that the relationship will lead nowhere, that that magical moment will never exist.

And instead of letting things go, she will become more and more preoccupied and stressed by the thought of engagement and marriage, until the obsession with marriage appears.

The idea is that without marriage you are not complete, you have no purpose in life, you cannot be happy. Another cliché that, unfortunately, is considered true by some women: that a man finds his true happiness and feels complete only once he establishes his own family, with his marriage. Even today, a woman can believe that only through a secure relationship (and therefore heading for marriage) can she find her fulfillment, fulfillment, purpose in life, and happiness!

Being alone seems like a bad thing - how can you be happy or feel alone? And yet, this is important - if you do not feel satisfied with yourself, happy with your life and complete, if you do not feel that you alone have a purpose, then a partner and a wedding will not make you happy at all, they will not do everything dissatisfaction to disappear.

The woman must learn that she must seek and find on her own the meaning and meaning in life, the feeling of fulfillment - only then can she enjoy happiness in two…

The fantasy of the perfect wedding. What girl has never dreamed of a beautiful wedding, the perfect wedding, in which she, the bride, shines with beauty and happiness? But developing an obsession with marriage and a perfect wedding is a wrong step - it's not the wedding that's important, it's what follows the wedding!

Hurrying to have a wedding just from the dream of seeing your bride graceful, having a big and select wedding is one of the most immature things possible. It is not the wedding that guarantees happiness - but the love for the partner and the way you create your relationship. Getting married to an unsuitable partner just for the perfect wedding is perhaps the biggest mistake - in addition, there is nothing perfect…

And when you still do not have a stable relationship, but you spend a lot of time dreaming about the wedding, thinking about what select room you want, what beautiful dress you want, what guests you want, etc., you can easily fall into the trap of starting a relationship and stay with the first income willing to give you the dream - so with an inappropriate partner.

External pressures. The obsession with marriage and marriage, however, can be born simply because of external pressures: parents who keep asking you "when you become a serious woman"; old friends getting married one by one; acquaintances who ask you if you have intentions you ask "when"

A new beginning and leaving behind the present. Marriage and marriage are a beginning, a new chance, but also an end - the end of life alone and the end of life in your parents' house (if you do not live alone - which means the end of the bachelor's life).

Often, a girl has an obsession with marriage not thinking about the perfect wedding or happiness in marriage, but the intense desire to get rid of her present life (especially loneliness or parenting). But getting married just to run away from your life is not a good reason…

Remember one thing: being overly preoccupied, almost obsessed with marriage, marriage, marriage doesn't help you at all! Wanting so much of one thing to occupy your mind blocks you, stress you out, and blocks you. Forget about the really important things in your life, worrying and trying too hard.