What kind of marriage is a good marriage?

The best marriage is to be responsible for yourself. What kind of man are you looking for? I want to find a responsible, responsible and reliable man. What kind of woman are you looking for? I am looking for a gentle and considerate woman who can take care of the family. In this reliable era, it is becoming more and more difficult to find a reliable person. The biggest hit recently is the play that Guo Degang and Cao Yunjin turned against each other. Some people say that their confrontation is actually a confrontation between China's two major rules. One is the patriarchal system and the other is the economic system. The patriarchal system talks about being a teacher for one day and a father all day long. There is no reason to say that what is mine is mine, and what is yours is also mine. You must always be responsible to me. The economic system is about win-win and contracts. For example: a child threw more than a dozen empty wine bottles down from the 20th floor. Fortunately, there was no one downstairs, otherwise the consequences would be disastrous. After his father found out, he beat him and posted the scar on the child's butt to the community WeChat group, and solemnly apologized to the owners. From the point of view of the patriarchal system, this father did the right thing, just like Jia Zheng beating Jia Baoyu: No matter how old you are, in front of me, you must be a child, you are a thing, not a person, you give it to me I'm embarrassed, I'm in trouble, you get in my way, I'm going to hit you, why? Because I am your father. If from the perspective of the economic system, my body does not belong to you, but my body belongs to me, why should you hurt my body? And, as a child, did I really have a motive to hurt? For me, it's just a game, should I pay for this responsibility or should you be an adult, have you done enough education for me? Are you treating me with such violence for yourself or to teach me what it is safe to do? Can you make me understand what you want me to understand in this way? Maybe I just learned one thing: don't hurt my dad's face, or I'll be miserable. The patriarchal system refers to the relationship of unlimited liability, while the economic relationship refers to the relationship of limited liability. The book "Understanding Love" defines responsibility in this way: Without respect, there is no responsibility. Because responsibility is necessarily a twin brother with another noun, that is, right. Those who talk about love may not really love you. During counseling, I often hear a lot of complaints from clients about their partners. After listening to this, I do feel sympathy for clients who are treated like this, but when I asked. After such a sentence, it seems that the other side of the problem begins to stand out: "What have you done for your partner?" At this time, the client tends to stop talking about it, or start to say again after a while, "I am for your partner." The other party did this and that, and it almost broke my heart, but he didn't appreciate it at all. My second question is: "Does what you do, is what he needs?" The client is silent for the second time, and then asks in surprise, "I do all this, isn't it all the wife (husband) should do? Isn't it what all men (women) want?" Or "Even if he doesn't want it, he should accept it if I do it." If you give it to the other party, then the other party must reciprocate to you? If you go to a shopping mall and the merchant forces you to buy her products, otherwise you are irresponsible, will you buy it? What's more, many times, you don't even do anything, and you force others to serve you indefinitely. Isn't this the behavior of gangsters?