What Do You Need to Know to Resist Loneliness?

Loneliness is the state feared by all. We are aware that it is inevitable. Each of us can feel alone at any time, but we will feel the true strength of this state only when our loved ones disappear, the children leave, the lover will deceive us…

Thousands of life tips are circulating online. Sometimes we have the feeling that they are made for a superman, who does not know any moment of weakness.

Psychologist Polina Gaverdovskaya has written a list of guidelines for those simple things that are important and that we need to remember in the days when we feel that we no longer have the strength to move on.

Here they are:

1. One day you will realize that you are left alone. You've always been alone, but it's often too late to do that. Parents leave, spouses change, lovers cheat on us, children have grown up. Or you leave them because they have become strangers. Everything that went on yesterday doesn't work the same way today.

Whatever happens, you need to keep in mind that loneliness is always around. Maturity is the ability to be alone without dramatizing this fact. It is best to prepare for this in advance. Read on to find out how.

2. You can replace them all, except for close relatives. No one and nothing exists in a single copy. Let new people into your life, even if you still don't know if you have something in common or not. This will save you when you are left alone.

3. Always try something new: food, clothes, gadgets, activities, movies, books. Our brain is like chewing gum - it will end up bending in the same places. Don't let him get used to the same activities, pleasures, ways, tricks, and actions. Always try something new, especially when you're lazy, scared, or just don't want to do anything. This will glorify you when you are left alone.

4. Forgive those you can forgive, forget the rest. Forgetting is the best punishment, but also the best cure.

5. You have nowhere to hurry. Everything that happens quickly lasts the same. If you want something - you will do it, if not, it means that you did not need it much. Risky desires and actions let them "rest." Do those things that you are confident in and only when desire accompanies you for a long time.

6. If you want something and you think it's the right thing to do, do it. Desire is the engine of life. Let your desire live and follow it. If after a while the desire has not disappeared - realize it.

7. Don't give up as long as you want something. Success is just experienced, that is, the number of attempts. Any failure is inexperience. Courage and risk are also experiences. Patience, the strength to move on, forgiveness, independence - all are gained through experience. Don't give up as long as you want something.

8. The end is not an end either, everything is flowing - it passes. Remember this when you feel the worst, when you are desperate, when you are sad, at a friend's grave, or when you read the letter of your loved one who left you… The day will surely come when you will say: That's exactly what happened! " Nothing is the absolute end. Sometimes the thought of being left alone can even save.

9. Do whatever you want, but don't forget your body, otherwise, it will take revenge unexpectedly. Educate yourself to ask him what he wants, and fulfill that desire. If you haven't listened to your body before and you don't know how to do it, start with the simple things-a walk in the woods, swimming, or yoga. You will see how your body reacts, your body is waiting to be heard.

10. Romance, love, and passion are wonderful. But if we confuse them with sex, we run the risk of losing them. And this is stupid, even harmful. Don't forget about the sex and schedule it as often as possible. Let romance and passion surprise you when you are already in bed with your lover.

11. The last thing you need to worry about is what the world will say. For the most part, people think of themselves and you, judging by their point of view. So they don't think about you or anyone else.

12. Be careful with self-confidence. Trust is the beginning of stagnation. Doubt, consider other options, plan your way back.

13. Take care of friends. Friends are the only ones we should "accumulate" more. One day you will realize that you are alone, and your friends will rush at you and say, "Did you fit in? You have us! " and it will be true.