Here's How You Can Find Out If You're A Priority For Him Or Just a Backup

Love cannot be weighed, but it can be felt. Gestures, actions, deeds, and small details can show us the love that our partner has for us.

It's just that, very often, because of love, we don't pay attention to the facts that represent the partner's attitude towards us.

Everyone has priorities. These can be: hobby, career, travel, but among them will always be a man, a group of people - family, friends, loved one. For each one, we will allocate time and attention. When we come up with excuses like we didn't have time for something or someone, we hide the pure truth, which we want to deny to ourselves or a certain person.

There may be many reasons, but the truth is one: that someone is not our priority. When your loved one has more excuses for you than facts, you should think about whether you are one of his priorities or, in his opinion, simply a reserve. Don't be selfish if you want your partner to pay attention to you and be in the first place in the multitude of priorities because it is right and normal that when you build a relationship or a marriage you want reciprocity.

We are the captains of our own lives and we are the ones who understand when we become the "second choice". How and when you realize that you are just a backup and not a priority for your partner are listed below:

1. Lack of attention. When I say attention, I mean the general attention that can be manifested through communication, touch, small gestures. When both partners are involved in a relationship, not just one, they both show respect, love, and involvement. When the person next to him cares what his partner feels, he will always listen to him very carefully when he has something to say and will take into account his opinion.

2. Refusal of liability. Any relationship comes with responsibilities that must be fulfilled by both partners. Responsibilities are part of the foundation on which a love affair is built. Involvement and indifference hide the lack of desire to build a future with the one next to it.

3. More of "you and me" and less of "us". In a serious relationship, the partners do not limit everything to "you and me", there is still room for "us". The future is designed for both of us, and the opinion of those around us always matters. When there is no common vision of the future for the relationship, there is little chance that it will last over time, and at the same time, such an attitude cannot be called a relationship.

4. You do not receive what you offer. The love affair must be accepted and understood by both parties. What you give, you receive. Healthy relationships are based on respect, generosity, and understanding. As long as there is no balance in the relationship and you choose to neglect the other, then it's time to ask yourself who you are in the vision of the one next to you.

5. The presence of unhappiness. Love generates happiness. When you are truly loved, you cannot be unhappy. Unfulfilled promises and empty words represent indifference. A man who loves another man exudes fulfillment and happiness, in no case suffering.

After all, the wrong choices are still choices, from which you can choose with life experiences. You can be a reserve for anyone, but you always have to be a priority for yourself.

When you understand that you have chosen the right person and the right path, choose yourself from the multitude of priorities and build a new beginning.