To the Person Still Holding On

Before this goes too deep, let me just ask this...what is your purpose in life? Is your intention to use the person you front to the world you love, or is it really to take your place in the world and live your life to the fullest? If you think I'm talking about you, look at it this way: I'm talking to you, about you—no need to talk behind your back.

Why? That is one question a lot of people can't answer. Often, we assume the man is the person is the relationship making mistakes, cheating, lying, and using their spouse, significant other, or whatever. It's not always like that.

Men and women can use the person they're in a relationship with, regardless of the type of relationship. So, back the question of why you do the things you do.

Are you lost? Are you afraid of being alone? Are you hoping the person will shed light on your messed up personality or are you just a shitty person?

No, everyone is not born with a silver spoon in their mouth, but is that your excuse for not getting a job, not applying yourself, and becoming something in life? You're probably sitting there asking me who I am to judge you, and that's true. I am no one to judge anyone, but why do you have to bring other people down with you? If you want to rot away in the skin you're in and never do a damn thing in your life, with your life, great, don't let me stop you, but misery likes company, so you can't do a damn thing on your own.

You don't work, you're not educated, and really have nothing to offer. You bring nothing to the table. Not really a catch, huh? Yet you parade around like you are God's gift to your significant other as if you can't be replaced...yeah, I know about you.

You don't have to come from royalty to want better in life, and even better, you don't have to spread your misery around like COVID if you prefer to do nothing with your life.

One of the worst things you can do is use a person, especially if they have children. Shame on your ass, seriously. These men and women are doing the best they can to have the best life they possibly can for their children, and here you come with your hand out, acting like you're a gift. Stop it. I know all too well that all people who are parents should be, and I'm not addressing them. I'm talking to the parents who never sleep, always working, studying, tending to their children, and trying their best to take care of themselves, so their children have what they need, and a little of what they want.

Here's an idea, if you have nothing to contribute, don't get into a relationship. Leave people alone. No one wants to deal with your shit. You are a damn burden, a succubus who feeds off people's goodwill and energy. Again, shame on you.

I know your tricks and most of the signs. I was once in a relationship with a person who had nothing to offer, so I kept providing and wondering why I could never get my shit together.

A relationship should be enjoyed by two people, not one. Just because you wash dishes or clean the bathroom one day, it doesn't give you permission to be a complete ass to the other person. If you're one of those who sit on your ass all damn day and do nothing around the house, there is no excuse. Share responsibilities. Share the workload. The entire foundation of the relationship should be placed upon the shoulders of one person.

You post all this mess on social media, threatening anyone who comes close to the so-called person you love for fear that you will be replaced. You know you aren't worth the time the other person is putting into you. You also know if they put the time and effort into someone else like they did you, they would have a real chance at happiness, and you're selfish, so you guilt-trip them. That's not love. You're just controlling as hell.

You know you have nowhere to go, and no one else is going to put up with your shit, so because you're miserable, you have to make the other person miserable. You can't control anything. The other person is not your property, and they don't belong to you.

I apologize for rambling, but follow me here. If you are capable of working and don't, that's a choice, but live and struggle alone. It's not anyone's job to support you. The only person stopping you is you. You're grown. No one tells you what to do, so you're the only person standing in your way.

Hard times have fallen upon everyone during this COVID-19 pandemic. It's time for everyone to come together and help one another, especially the person you claim to love. Get off your ass, get a job, help out in every way you can because the same is done for you. Have you ever had a job? Do you know what it's like to have to provide for yourself and your children, AND the live-in person in your home who pays no bills or really contributes in any way? Didn't think so. You can't ask the other person what they bring to the table when it's their table you're sitting at.

I said all of that to really say this...look around you. It's evident the person you're with cares for you. Get a grip on yourself and regroup. Life is too short, and you never know when it's your time. Don't make someone's life hell because you are unhappy with the choices you made. Everyone deserves peace, even you.