To express one's emotions in the right way is to be truly complete

My cousin left her job for three years, and asked me to go shopping with her on weekends.

I thought I'd see her with a sad face, but on the contrary, my cousin swept away her former depression, and the whole person was in high spirits, which made me look confused.

My cousin seemed to see my doubts and was busy talking.

"I changed to a new job, only to find that I was really bullied by the spirit before.

In my last job, my supervisor was a "powder keg". As long as there was anything at work that didn't suit his wishes, he would lose his temper completely.

Every day, I was frightened by my work, and I was forced into a vicious circle, working, being scolded, revised and criticized … but in fact, I didn't solve any problems, and my work progressed very slowly.

Now, I have been in the new company for a month, and I feel so good! In my work, I not only have a lot of freedom, but even if I do encounter problems, the leaders are not angry, but we sit together and express our opinions, analyze and solve problems. I think my growth this month is far more than the previous three years. "

We will inevitably encounter problems and difficulties in our work. If anger can solve the problems, we should blame each other. But in fact, anger can't solve any problems, but it will delay time and cause the plan to stagnate.

So, if someone really made a mistake, wouldn't they be angry?

In fact, if the person who made the mistake realizes the seriousness of the problem, his heart has already been overwhelmed by guilt. At this time, if someone gives goodwill, he will not only be grateful, but also be more careful in his later work, which is not angry with his life. Direct relationship;

If the person who made the mistake didn't realize his own problems and didn't repent, then anger won't solve the problem, but it will make him feel more comfortable. The worst result is to accept the anger of others, and there is no real loss. For such people, the punishment is stronger.

In the workplace, anger actually represents not power, but incompetence, because you have to lose your temper if you can't solve the problem.

A truly powerful person does not rely on anger to solve problems.

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In the social field, it is useless to be angry, and it is the right way to show your position

I slept with Wenwen and Xiaoxiao University and maintained a good relationship after graduation.

However, a few days ago, they suddenly had a conflict.

It turns out that before the two made an appointment to travel together, they both took leave with the company.

However, Wenwen's unit temporarily had something to do and needed to change the travel time, so she informed the other party. Xiaoxiao was very angry and hung up the phone directly.

Wenwen thought that this matter turned the page in each other's anger. After all, Xiaoxiao did not put forward other opinions.

Not long ago, Xiaoxiao asked her if she was ready. Wen Wen is very puzzled. It is not agreed to change the time.

Xiaoxiao was furious at once, and stressed that he was angry and said he had refused.

One of them only knew that he was angry and forgot to show his position, and the other took the anger of the other, but forgot to communicate, so he acquiesced in his own ideas.

In the end, the problem between the two people was not solved, but the contradiction was enlarged.

We always say that we should control our temper in social situations, which not only reflects our personal qualities, but also because anger not only expresses our emotions, but also does not clearly show our position, and even often weakens our position because of anger.

Therefore, we should give up unnecessary anger and express our thoughts and positions more clearly, which is the best way to socialize.

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In the family, it is useless to be angry, and it is perfect to feel love

Have you ever been angry because your parents ate leftovers, bought seasonal fruits and didn't take medicine on time?

Have you ever been angry because your children play games, don't study hard, don't eat on time?

Have you ever been angry because your lover came home late, forgot the anniversary and had no time to accompany you?

Do you remember the embarrassment on your parents' faces, the panic on your children's faces, and the emotional uneasiness of your lover after you are angry?

Have you ever thought how uncomfortable they will feel when you get angry?

Are you angry because you don't like them?

No, on the contrary, you are angry because you love them very much.

Many times, we always express our love with bad emotions, and always express our concern with anger.

We are always looking for excuses and reasons to vent our dissatisfaction to the people we love the most, but we have never thought that we should leave the best of ourselves to them.

Anger can't express love, sometimes it even hurts people and pushes people we love away.

So, from today, learn to quit anger and express our concern and care with a smile.

Love is expressed in the right way, which is the true perfection.