The Perks of Dating When You're "Too Busy to Date"

Somebody, please tell me I'm not the only person having trouble finding a date while I'm trying to see my family, go to work, volunteer, go to school, and spend time with my friends. Alas, I can't be the only one stigmatized as "too busy."

Oh, how I loathe the thought that being 'too busy' means you're too intelligent to date. Whatever that means. Or that if you don't have a social life, you shouldn't date. Or when you're wrapped up with your career, studies, or volunteer work to date, you're stuck up.

Don't people get it? Being too busy to date seems like a luxury reserved for the rich and famous. But the rest of us busy-bees can also lay claim to that title. In fact, being too busy to date is a common occurrence for many of us. And, believe it or not, there are some perks to being too busy to date! Here are four of them:

1. You Get to Be Picky

Strangely, this is one of the most attractive things about being too busy to date. You can afford to be a little picky, and when you're choosy, it shows. It shows you're not desperate, have standards for what you want in a relationship, and are not imminently available. So it's attractive to people who aren't desperate when they date.

Simple-minded folk won't get this. They will criticize and judge your pickiness. To them, settling is the way to go. To people like us, it isn't because we see through the BS. And we calmly choose the ones right for us.

2. You Don't Have Time for Games

You don't have time for games when you're too busy to date. And that's a good thing! You don't have time for mind games or playing it cool or any of that other dating nonsense. You're too busy for all that, and you won't tolerate it from anyone else. So that means you can save yourself a lot of time and headache by weeding out anyone who isn't interested in something real from the beginning.

And yet, as picky as you are, you may waste time on people who want to play games or be bad dates. It's ok. Look around. Who's judging you? If a date does not work out for you, it will just mean that this person or this particular date was not so great for you - nothing more to it than that.

3. You're More Confident

Being too busy to date also means that you're more confident. When you're confident, people can tell, and it's attractive. People are drawn to confident people because they possess competence and self-assurance. That's precisely the kind of person people want to date! So, embrace your inner confidence and let it shine when dating. Don't shy from it.

To clarify, understand an essential truth about confidence. When you have it, you birth three critical skills that all successful daters need: conversation, connection, and chemistry. If you have these with your potential date, you'll be able to move forward and attract that person in a meaningful way. And of all this, because you're confident.

4. You Know What You Want

When you're too busy to date, you know what you want in a partner because you've had time to think about it. Unlike someone who's always dating and always looking for love, when you're too busy to date, you've had time to reflect on what's important to you in a relationship. Then, when you start dating again, you'll know exactly what kind of person you want to be with and what things are important to you in a relationship.

This is a crucial byproduct of being too busy. Time is precious and limited; you don't want to waste it on someone only looking for a net gain without contributing to the relationship. Instead, you can focus on finding a fantastic partner by knowing what you want. Then, you can find someone who loves and respects YOU no matter what life throws at them!

So there you have it! The next time someone tells you that being too busy to date is bad, remind them of these four perks! Trust us, being too busy to date isn't so bad after all.