The most pain is... the most pain of your loved one is caused by you.

The first time I heard Eason Chan sing "We", I was attracted by his deep voice and moving melody, but it was the sentence that really stopped me and couldn’t help but savor the song: "My biggest regret is your regret. related to me".

The lyricist Ge Dawei is really amazing. Without certain experience, it is impossible to write such words.

Although there are many sufferings in life, most of them actually have exits.

To hate the person who hurt you is one way, forgetting is another.

Retaliation is more specific, and forgiveness may be more release.

But one of them makes people feel like a knife and feel at a loss.

For example, you are the one who brings the most pain to your loved one, so what should you do?

Recently, I have been watching "Although it's mentally ill, it doesn't matter", and it has been broadcast to episode 10. It has almost shaken the position of "Ghost" in my mind.

Good-looking dramas should not squeeze the audience’s tears through plots such as cancer and accidental death. That is a very low-handed approach. Even if I cried at the moment, it doesn’t mean I feel good-looking.

Recently, there is a set of "Dinner Together?" that just appeared these things, which made me feel a pity that the screenwriter ruined the originally good subject matter and turned it into a cliché plot, greatly reducing the visibility.

A really good series can touch people's hearts even without exaggerating life and death, just like "Although it is mentally ill, it doesn't matter", the screenwriter accurately outlines the contradictions and tensions between people, love and hurt each other at the same time.

In order to take care of his brother Shang Tai who is suffering from autism, the protagonist Gangtai basically revolves around his brother in his life, and his brother also likes Gangtai very much.

Sacrifice my life and give it to another person. Just imagine that you should know how tiring it is. I can't do it, so I ran away.

But I didn’t expect that Shang Tai, who was taken care of, had a deep wound in his heart. It was about his younger brother crying to his mother because of too much hard work when he was young and saying, "I hope my brother will die!" and that time he fell. He almost drowned after entering the ice lake, desperately calling for help, but the picture of his brother turning and leaving became his nightmare.

Although Gangtai went back to save his brother in the end and almost died because of it, the desire for his brother to die did exist and it was realized briefly.

As bystanders, we can understand both sides. Who can we easily blame during the tragedy?

But for the person involved, it was an insurmountable scar.

Knowing that he would have to jump over the mountain on the opposite side to continue walking, he couldn't help but fear that he might be buried in the valley if he was not careful.

Shangtai is just like this. He has come to middle age and never mentions anything about his teenage years. That's why Gangtai mistakenly thought that his brother had forgotten that thing a long time ago. Only when he was trapped, he continued to make atonement silently. Unexpectedly, my brother always remembered that because the heroine Wenying's appearance was stimulated, he finally yelled at his brother: "You lied, you told your mother that you wanted me to die, you didn't save me that day, you missed me to die!" So far, Gangtai realized that his brother, like himself, had been tortured by that incident. It turned out that he had brought such a huge pain to his favorite brother.

Kota's collapse and crying were not because his brother's accusations against him or his efforts were ignored, but because he hurt the other party.

This incident made him the most sad.

In those days when I was so sad that I wanted to die, I would also like to think that one day my family knew of the harm I received from home. What would they do? The most painful source of the person you love is you, it’s terrible, I plan to keep the secret to the end (although you may wonder if you have written it all out, can they know it? It’s really okay. Ah, because they don't really read what I wrote.) On the other hand, if you plan to face off or don't want to hurt the accumulation, the earlier the scars will be shallower.

After all, you hate and hate these things. If you expose them to the sun, they seem to gradually evaporate, but if they are secretly placed in a corner, they will breed and spread, and finally entangle your whole person.

I have missed it once, and I don’t want to be so wrong in the future.

So speaking now is more direct and willing to burst out occasionally, rather than a long time later suddenly release an atomic bomb.

For things that can’t be turned back, I think that the best way to deal with the future is to live a better life.

If you are having a good time now, even if the scars are uncovered someday, the other person will feel a little comfort because you are living well, and there may be less pain or guilt for hurting you.

Why do you think about each other everywhere? Because the people who can hurt you are not the ones you love.

"Come to hurt each other" if it is to invite each other not to be afraid of getting hurt and move forward together, but if "come to hurt each other" becomes a life style, then it is avoided.

Don’t you think it’s too abnormal?