The 5 Most Common Problems in a Relationship

Because love is not like in movies, a relationship is never spiced up with butterflies, rainbows, and the sun. Relationship problems? All couples have them. Most of the time, the conversations that cause the most frustration and destroy relationships are the everyday ones, the small ones that over time become so hard to bear that they turn into real monsters.

Depending on the type of relationship you have with your partner, problems can be truly unique. In a long-term relationship, however, the biggest problems are generally common and you may find yourself in at least one of the situations below.

Let's see what are the 5 most common problems we face in our relationship and what we can do to overcome them:

1. Space and time for you

Problem: You don't have enough space and you don't have time just for yourself

The solution: I know how much you sometimes want to go to a party or an outing with friends without him. That means not making a fuss when he chooses to spend an evening away from you.

It is important and extremely healthy for the relationship to give each other space and time outside of the couple, with understanding, support, and without reproach. You will see that this will remove much of the tension in the relationship and the conflict will be greatly reduced.

2. Too much discussion about former relationships

Problem: You can't control your curiosity or your emotional reactions when it comes to your former love affairs.

The solution: If you're too busy with his past, you've probably noticed the anxiety and nervousness caused by your little "discoveries." Any answer you receive will make you feel insecure and sometimes even unconsciously change your attitude towards the relationship.

Stop digging into the skeletons and focus on the present moment. He, like you, has more or less happy past experiences. Detach yourself from the past and control your curiosity by focusing on how you can improve your relationship.

3. Expressing emotions

Problem: One of you may be more expressive than the other, which may make you feel less involved in the relationship than you

Solution: There is no one-size-fits-all pattern for expressing feelings, and not everyone can easily show off their emotions. So just because he doesn't tell you "I love you" so often doesn't mean he loves you less. Accept that each individual has their personality, be open, and talk to them about your needs and desires.

At the same time, if he has difficulty expressing his affectivity either because he does not know, is not accustomed, or does not live up to his character, does not put up walls, and does not let your restraints decrease the intensity of your gestures.

4. Money

Problem: One of you earns more and your expenses are disproportionate.

Solution: Money can become a serious relationship problem if there is no agreement in which you both feel comfortable. To avoid the frustrations and conflicts that can arise, it is a good idea to have a clear discussion with him about how the expenses are shared. It is not always the most important thing to achieve the financial balance between you, but rather the clear understanding and acceptance of your involvement.

5. The big monster called Jealousy

Problem: You want to know at all times what he's doing, where he's at, who he's with. Lack of information at any time causes you anxiety, anxiety, mistrust, and frees you from the relationship… jealousy.

The solution: It's okay to feel jealous sometimes. It's a human feeling that is hard to control in certain situations. What matters is how justified these reactions are. Jealousy is such a big topic that we will discuss it separately in another article, what you have to remember now is that it is often not related to it, but your insecurity and lack of trust.

Every moment you feel jealous before you start a discussion with him sprinkled with reproach and nervousness, take a break. Stop, wait for the scenario-filled mind to calm down, focus on another activity, and then turn around and calmly analyze the situation. Only then are you ready to have a balanced discussion with him?