The Right Attitude You Need to Have to Attract Woman

I can't have a girlfriend, whatever I do! Does the problem seem familiar to you? Is it hard for you to even talk to a pretty girl because you think in advance that you will be rejected? Do you have a habit of accentuating your flaws yourself, ignoring the good parts, thinking that you are not good enough, that you are not how you should be?

Have you ever thought that you are trying too hard? The more you emphasize a difficulty and believe it is unsolvable, irreparable, the more it becomes so!

Get rid of the "I can't have a girlfriend" idea! It is useful, first of all, to clearly understand WHY, why you encounter problems of this kind. Once you know the cause, you can try solutions.

And NO, the cause is never as simple as "because I don't look good," "because I'm short," "because I wear glasses," "because I have pimples," "because I don't have money.". Is that how you've seen guys who are less attractive, smart, or rich than you have friends?

What matters most is your attitude and how much you let the various flaws control your life! Don't think that it's a cliché meant to make you feel better: "Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like hell ain't for me either. It's part of the truth: if you change your attitude, the defect doesn't seem so big anymore and it won't be what characterizes you! Well, you have glasses and pimples.

And? Instead of focusing on these, try to focus on the benefits. And don't let yourself get hurt or defeated: when a colleague laughs at your flaws, if you shut up, then everyone will see what he sees. But you can laugh too, be funny, show that it's not the fault that matters, and make jokes about the faults of others and yours at the same time: "Yes, I'm a four-eyed stove." but at least I have more than three neurons / three pubic threads "! A joking, sincere and optimistic attitude is always appealing.

Have you ever heard of neuro-linguistic programming? Well, when you repeat, "I can't have a girlfriend," "I can't have a girlfriend," you're sending this message to your brain! Which, in turn, will tell you that this is the reality and that you have nothing to do. Instead, repeat yourself as something optimistic, something realistic, but good, and try to strengthen your self-image.

We all have flaws and advantages, both physically and mentally. But it is easier for some of us to accept their flaws as such laugh at them and emphasize their qualities.

"I can't have a girlfriend because I'm different"! This is usually the key to having problems with the opposite sex in adolescence. If you are different - you look, dress, behave differently, have other hobbies (God forbid you to like to read!),

Then it is difficult for you to integrate, to make friends and girlfriend. Unfortunately, high school is the most superficial environment possible: everyone, implicitly and especially girls, judges those around them according to appearance and not the essence. How you look and behave is more important than how you feel and think. There is, as usual, a ray of light: as you mature, your priorities change! So many students say to themselves: "even when I think that in high school I despair that I can't have a girlfriend! Boy, was I wrong! "

And what, does that mean you have to wait until college? Not necessarily: there is an effective rule, namely: do not aim for the stars! Just as you are different, shorter, with glasses, thinner, fatter - so are different girls, more modest girls who don't fit in. Try to talk and get to know such a girl and forget about the popular girls that everyone is after - those are the most superficial.

It is said that adolescence is an age when most people are superficial and focus on appearances. So make a small compromise and try, although you probably hate being a sheep, to follow certain fashions, certain trends. Try not to stand out too much: if you wear loose jeans, loose t-shirts, and sweatshirts, it would be crazy for you to be the one with the striped pants and jacket! To integrate, you have to be part of the crowd, not stand out!

Important: Be honest, disarmingly honest in a fun way! DO NOT think that when you decide to take the first step and talk to a girl, you will be rejected! If you give this message to your brain, then you will believe it and behave as such, in vain! If you still think you are rejected, your mind exaggerates reality and makes it more awful: how many times have you invited a girl somewhere and how many times have you been refused?

Three or four times? That means three or four girls out of a thousand! But your mind makes you believe that everything will behave the same! Control your pessimism and try a funny, joking attitude instead. Go to a girl and say something like, "Listen, probably the last thing you want now is to go with me to the chess championship, so I'll give you the penultimate thing you want: come to a comedy with me!

I promise that, in addition to the movie, I will also invent at least three jokes! " or "I have glasses and you know you're snoring badly, but I also have movie tickets, a brain developed over the level of class primates and five loud jokes! What do you choose? " The idea is to be funny and look (at least look like, if you are not) detached, and if he refuses you, do not make this a tragedy - "there is much fish in the pond" and you will find one if you do not give up!