humanity
For better or for worse, relationships reveal the core of the human condition.
What is life and why?
The problem is that each person and subject has their own unique definition. Even if they lead similar lives, there will be different definitions, so we can use a vague and general definition -- life until death, or work, illness, and spiritual cultivation, as is often said. In some descriptions, the meaning of life and the way of life are also included in life, which in fact is equivalent to embedding their own call advice and perceptual definition. So why ask this question? Fish in the water asked, what is water? What is breathing? What to swim with? To feel the water? To breathe? If you ask a question to someone you are curious about or admire, and use such a question-and-answer procedure in Zhihu, who should you ask? How can people who do not know each other understand, analyze, judge and advise? Especially such an abstract and vague question, what is the criterion of the subject judge whether the answer is useful or not? Do you want to know the answer itself, or do you want to show your feelings or insights on the side? Have you considered the feelings of the respondents? Maybe that's a little heavy. Excuse me.Many years ago, WHEN I was practicing myself on campus, I designed a questionnaire and found that even though it involved very specific and realistic questions -- such as "Can you keep as responsible (responsible for your own future) as possible with our questionnaire that you may not like? And explain whether the answer represents your true psychological mood or proportion." , man still struggle, also have to consider the degree of precise and easy to answer the problem itself, by asking the desire of the cooperation, how to make each other not perfunctory answer but smell problem and pleased, think "finally asked the question," when just know to ask a good question is even more important than the answer itself, unless your problem just quantitative aspects of reality, Like -- your height? Weight? So come to the conclusion that the investigation itself, is representing the side draw quality, sincerity, rational, sense of responsibility and comprehensive analysis and comprehensive design ability, follow-up questionnaire is originally wanted to pull and propaganda of goods, this time only to find that the questionnaire itself is already a commodity, need to let a person willing to accept and feel sincerity and effective communication, It also involves making sure that the executors understand the purpose and significance of the trip, and that they should explain and be responsible for the execution, because we all don't want to waste our lives and do nothing. The question itself is a comprehensive assessment for the questioner, and even affects the questioner's thinking direction and role positioning, as well as their bearing capacity, confidence and enthusiasm. Because everyone likes high-quality, effective and sincere questions, the questions are sometimes far more than material incentives, may let the asked admire, moved and active input. In recent years, I have read many news articles and commentaries that describe them in a subjective, arrogant, and illogical manner, and then feel that the author has not finished the content or the reason is very far-fetched and asks the author in a panic - what do you think of this situation? Comments are welcome. Every time I saw it, IT was like seeing a huge mass of sewage that couldn't be evaded on the highway. If it is already the author's expression, even if treading on sewage is ok, you can continue to learn and improve it; It's boring to follow a vulgar format when you could be trying hard to be clear, like mimicking famous people who just pick up the microphone and say "thank you," or pick up the guitar and go around the world. When I think about it, I have a feeling. So, the general public about life itself and narrow individual comprehension, on how to understand, dedication and the pursuit of the goal of life, to management and make the self life, find the inner meaning of reality and ideal, do the most true and free yourself, silent industrious bear those who should bear, brave and strong to withstand the test, To learn and feel as much as possible about the good things in different rules and alternative ways, to share the good things with others, to have expectations, to respect yourself and others, is the attitude I would like to suggest.
By Light injury4 years ago in Humans
On the evening of Chinese New Year's Eve last year, one of my uncles spent it in the emergency room of the hospital.
The reason is because of the distribution of house and deposit. While my uncle was asleep, my aunt picked up a fruit knife and stabbed him in the thigh. Fortunately, it's not the aorta. The 120 came in time. Although he shed a lot of blood, his life was returned. When something happened, my aunt ran away, and the cost of hospitalization was made up by my relatives. Originally, the family members wanted to call the police, but their uncle stopped them and divorced them after telling them that they were in the hospital. These days are not enough. It is estimated that the story of the couple can be written in a book. From the beginning of marriage, quarrel began, and gradually developed into martial arts, fighting every day and every day, which worried the elderly at home, and even the introducers got angry! Later, we had children, and everyone thought that the two people's tempers were almost running in. Should we live a good life for the sake of children? As a result, the two men played harder and harder, and actually swung a small knife for a long time. Often, either the man hung the lottery or the woman bled. Make a mess of the family. In this way, two people can live without divorce. My cousin, their son, lived to the age of 19 under such circumstances. That year, my cousin was in senior three and was preparing for the college entrance examination. A very excellent child, handsome, good homework. His ambition is the Chinese Department of Fudan University, and we also firmly believe that he can be admitted. In the last mock exam before the college entrance examination, he played abnormally and scored poorly. Originally, this is nothing. The mock exam is not a real exam. But my uncle and aunt said some sarcastic words. In fact, no matter how bad the feelings of parents are, they should really care for their children. They may just want to inspire their children, but the wrong way of speaking will cause unimaginable consequences. My cousin was in despair. After dinner, he entered his room without saying a word and jumped down from the upstairs. The fourth floor of the old community is not high, but it is still dead. A big boy who looks so sunny and cute, why can't he think of doing such a stupid thing because of such a small thing. Later, I thought, how can a child who grew up in that family environment have no psychological shadow? The last straw that crushed the camel is those harsh so-called good words! The death of my cousin was a great blow to my uncle and aunt. In the past, their son was the bond and hope of their relationship. Now that their son is gone, their hopes are dashed, and they are free from worries. Abusing and blaming each other and fighting each other have become the best way to remember their children. Both of them work in the power system, with good wages, high benefits and no worries about food and clothing. Later, when the best spring of real estate came, my uncle joined the army of real estate speculation and owned several houses in our city, which was a small fortune. Divorce has become the mantra and motto of two people! Why she hasn't left, it's because my aunt asked my uncle to give her all the property and all the savings, so that my uncle can get out of the house. Of course, my uncle didn't do it and asked for half for one person. The result is to drag and consume each other, trying to torture each other to death. What is mutual injury? It's just them. If my cousin is alive, he will be 35 years old. Uncle and aunt are also old, but the two people are full of fighting spirit and hate each other like natural enemies. Today, he changed the door lock to prevent each other from entering the door. Tomorrow, she smashed the pots and pans. The day after tomorrow, he cut the furniture into boards, and then she broke the TV air conditioner. All the relatives and friends persuade them to divorce. Let's leave soon. Finally, the War reached a white hot level last year. Because both sides have been hospitalized for several times because of fighting, the frequency of hitting 110 is also high, which makes the police helpless. Relatives are too lazy to care. How long can they toss about? At noon on the new year's Eve, the family had a dinner. My uncle drank a few more cups and went to bed when he got home. In the evening, in the glittering fireworks, the aunt looked at her uncle who was still asleep. She hated him from the heart, and was evil to the side of the gall, intending to kill the rest. She picked up the fruit knife on the table and hit hard! After his uncle recovered from his injury, he negotiated with his aunt. As long as there is only one suite, other properties, including savings, have been given to his aunt. He has a pension and will always have a dependency in the future. The two enemies divorced in their later years. Both of them paid a heavy price, including the child's life, the two people's beautiful years, as well as those scars on the body and soul. Sometimes, I feel that some people are simply unreasonable and do not hesitate to sacrifice themselves in order to hurt each other. In the end, both sides were hurt, and the chicken feather was on the ground!
By Ratcliff Hudson4 years ago in Humans
The Death of You
So many feelings that death feels near. So many emotions and yet nothing is clear. You see all the love but don't understand it, you want to blame yourself because you're older and should have experienced it. Life goes on and you still go through nothing, thinking you have to force things just to feel it. You wonder if you see for yourself what it truly feels like, and yet you find pain and misery in what it means to love me.
By The Kind Quill4 years ago in Humans
