divorce
Divorce isn't an end; it's a different beginning.
Flying Monkeys Are Predators in Waiting
Ending a relationship with a person on the narcissistic spectrum is daunting, draining, exhausting and painful. If you were married with children it is much worse as these folks aspire to "win" and children are subject to collateral damage. These folks are incapable of being decent parents due to their own limitations. This shows itself promptly when they file for sole custody, attempting to hurt a protective parent on the deepest level and showing they have no regard for the children, who they view as possessions.
By narcissistic whisperer, Andrea B. Wainer7 years ago in Humans
Dating After Divorce
There is absolutely nothing more daunting than the idea of being "back on the market" after a prolonged absence due to being betrothed to "the one" for a spell. After being married and with the same person for a long time, we tend to get very comfortable in the idea of who we are. The role of being a wife or a mother is actually a small part of who we actually are and it's easy to forget that we are more than just a title. Transitioning from these roles can be outright scary, especially when you factor in the way things have changed from when you were single at 18 to being single in your early 30s.
By S A Miller7 years ago in Humans
My Road to Divorce Part 2
A lot has changed since I wrote my last post. After leaving in January, my life had more ups and downs than I could have ever expected. To this day, I am still not divorced, mostly do to financial needs. I have moved back into the same town as my ex. For months we lived as roommates and tried to get along, thinking it was best for our kids. I watched him date and try to rebuild his life. Some parts didn't hurt me. Others made me feel like I was not worth very much. You would expect jealousy and pain from being close to him and not having him, but that is not what I experienced. To be honest, the biggest thing that hurt me is seeing him do amazingly sweet or romantic things for other women that he never once did during our seven years of marriage. The worst part, though, was him thinking that because we were now friends, that he could tell me all of these built up secrets about the time we were together and married that were horrible. Such as having crushes on other females, flirting, dreaming, and even wanting them in a sexual way while we were together. In the last month, I have moved into my own place and see my children as much as I can. I am preparing all of the paperwork and knowledge I need to file for divorce. The hardest thing I am doing though is playing nice.
By Katrina Chamberlain7 years ago in Humans
I Wish He Just Punched Me in the Face
I feel like I need to clarify the title of my piece; I am not in any way diminishing physical abuse. I've seen what it can do to individuals and families, and it is no less than terrifying. I am so fortunate to never have experienced that kind of suffering.
By Jordan Chetelat7 years ago in Humans
Escaping the Narcissist
“He doesn't love you enough!” I remember it like it was yesterday. My best friend had gone to the airport with me to pick my husband Jay up. Now, Jay had been taking care of his mother in another state for a couple years at this point, and the bestie really didn't know him that well. We met him at the top of the escalators, and by the time we got to baggage claim, that was the bestie's observation.
By Denise Hedley7 years ago in Humans
Divorce
On this day 10 years ago, I broke off our engagement. I know, Valentine's Day... I'm a savage. But I can't help but wonder if I had remained true to myself, where would we both be? What would have happened if I allowed my yeses to be yeses and my nos be nos?
By Xena Warrior7 years ago in Humans
Dying from a Broken Heart
It is with the heaviest of heart that I write this, and this is very real and it is all of who I am. Hollywood has shown us that we need to love without regard and without judgment. We are supposed to love someone with everything that we are and have, and subsequently expect to be loved in return. Whether or not you believe this is not the argument, and this is not a piece about debate but one of remorse. The first time that I laid eyes on her was in a small Sunday school room on the second floor of an old theater church in Papillion. We were all of about eight years old, and the first time I was allowed to speak to her, even at that very young age, I felt something deep within me change, forever. Over the next few school years we grew closer and closer. I always knew that I would marry her, and I always knew that I would never love anyone else in my time. We began dating when we were of the approved age, and that was probably one of the most exciting times in our relationship. We soaked in each other's presence and never wanted to let the other one leave our sights. When one of us was sick, we would talk on the phone or write the other one a letter. Not a letter that was full of 'I miss you's' (although those were certainly present), but full of "I can't wait to see you again"s. Our love was something that I believed was special, and compared to the other couples, I knew that it was deeper.
By Michael Grube7 years ago in Humans
8 FAQs About Getting a Divorce
We all want to believe in a happily ever after when it comes to marriage. Unfortunately, some unions won’t be ‘til death do you part and may get messy when the subject of divorce is presented. While it appears millennials are causing the divorce rate to drop in the United States, roughly 40 to 50 percent of married couples still divorce in the U.S.
By Sam Larson7 years ago in Humans
