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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..

Why do People keep cheaters around?
Infidelity should not be tolerated by no means. As someone who have had the experience of being cheated on, I know all too well the pain of betrayal and the feeling of worthlessness that one feels when he or she discovered that the person they supposed to be committed to and in love with had found interest and comfort in the arms of another person. Sometimes we know why it happens, other times we have no clue as to what we did to deserve being cheated on. Usually the reason itself makes no sense as the cheaters tend to point the finger at their partner, whether it’s blaming them for lack of attention, not being able to fulfill a certain need or want, or just using fights in the relationship as a reason to go and find someone else to fulfill a certain need in their lives. Most of the time, we tend to take they guys or gals back into our lives, reassuring ourselves that if we work on trust and move on we will be a stronger and better couple. As I matured myself, I have grown to have a zero tolerance for cheaters. Once that line has been crossed, it’s you go your way and I go my way. However, I know plenty of people who regardless of the amount of evidence they have on their partner, still want to work on the relationship. Even when their partner has been caught red handed, they still hold on the hope that everything will work out and that their cheating partner will no longer in the future betray them like that again. Based on my own experiences, I’ve realize the different reasons why people take cheaters back. I’m going to point out the many reasons why people make the decision to put themselves in the position to be hurt again and why they should reconsider and save themselves time, pain, and future disappointments.
By Spencer Jean-Mary6 years ago in Humans
5 Perfect Gifts to Get Any Woman in Your Life
Everyone wants to treat their loved ones with special gifts, but it's sometimes difficult to find the perfect thing. If you have a special woman in your life and want to buy her something special, here are five simple and exciting gifts.
By Casey Chesterfield6 years ago in Humans
Are you fed up in your relationship?
As a Coach I have had many enquires about Relationship Coaching due to many couples having problems with their partner, especially during this time.
By Rita Hurry6 years ago in Humans
How to Improve Your Relationship
One day while I was out running errands I passed by a couple who was having a disagreement in the aisle I was in. I overheard what was said but when I made it back home I sat back and asked, “Do I treat and react like that in my relationships”? I know no one is prefect and sometimes we let our anger overpower our actions without thinking about who’s around, who hears you, and what we let come out of our mouths. My overthinking bought me to write down ways people could improve and easily deescalate a situation without leaving each person feeling sad, upset, hurt, unheard, and misunderstood.
By kLb6 years ago in Humans
Things not to do when you're heartbroken
1. Don't read Normal People or watch it's tv adaptation that recently came out on Stan. I remember when I first read Normal People and fell in love with the awkward and what was written like it felt very real relationship between Marianne and Connell . It's such a humanising and frustrating novel, and I remember it leaving me emotionally tired and reflecting on how we as humans, have this tendency to inevitably self-sabotage the beautiful, lovely things and connections we have in life. After having recently binged the tv show (which is as perfect an adaption that one could make, has the most beautifully authentic intimacy scenes and the greatest cast), I felt the same emotions, if not more so, than I did when I read the book. Reliving these feelings and watching the ups and downs of the relationship between the two central characters, coupled with the grief and hurt that's still in my hurt, triggered lots of late-night emotional spirals. I do think the show is exquisite though, however, I'd recommend waiting a little bit post-break up or watching it with a friend, who you can lean on throughout the moments on the screen that make your heart feel heavy.
By Virag Dombay6 years ago in Humans
How to talk to Women
Many men struggle with connecting to a woman with the communication side of things. A lot of men have no trouble scoring themselves a girl purely because they are easy on the eye. But what about the men out there who lack confidence and need something else to woo a woman. You may notice you struggle to make her laugh, you don't know which sexual conversation to engage in or what to say and overall you might not know how to keep her interested. Here i will be telling you the truth about the female mind and what we REALLY want.
By Daina 6 years ago in Humans
How To Keep A Relationship Alive As A First-Time Mum
So – you’re a new mum. And you’re exhausted. What to do to keep a relationship alive might not be high up on your to-do list – if it’s on there at all.
By Leigh Norén6 years ago in Humans
Kindness can Save the World
Kindness could fine well save the world We as a collective are very hurt, wouldn’t you say. Our history of violence and hatred, our normalisation of judgement, our internalisation of unkind words: all cause hurt. And, as the saying goes, “hurt people, hurt people”. So, how do you cure a world infected with hurt? Kindness, and indeed love, could fine well be the medicine we need.
By Ellen Dodd6 years ago in Humans
Bridging Two Worlds: When To Bring the Kids and the New Partner Together
One of the biggest questions single parents have when it comes to dating is, when do I introduce the kids to my new partner? It’s not an easy question to answer, and everyone will have a different opinion.
By Wendy Miller6 years ago in Humans
What Do You Want?
Has any one ever asked you what you wanted? Have you been asked to set aside your partner, your kids, your job, your family and everyone else to honestly zero in on just you? To focus on what it is that you want and makes you happy? Have you looked at your present situation in your life and really soaked it all in to see if you are truly happy? To decide if you want to improve something in your life, or about you? To sift through everything and see what makes you happy and doesn’t make you happy? What can be changed or improved? If anything should be changed.
By Scarlett Price6 years ago in Humans
How to Find Someone Emotionally Available.
You’re tired of dating people to find out later that they were never in a place emotionally to give you what you needed, to give you back what you give to others, to be there for you like you have been for them. The thing is that the blame isn’t all theirs and that is what you will eventually come to understand. But the real question is even if they were, would the person you are now at the level of healing and with your current relationship with your emotions be ready for that? Because the things that we attract, want, and value in others should show us a lot about ourselves allowing us to look inward asking ourselves why those are things that matter and gravitate towards us. What and why they resonate with us in some aspect.
By M F6 years ago in Humans
Things That I Learned About Guys
Two years after the break up, that devastating break up with a guy that I thought I loved him with everything I had to offer, I changed a lot over the course of two years.
By Omay6 years ago in Humans