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Fascinating silent science
Silence is the absence of intentional sound or purposeful silence-for many people, this is quite disturbing, especially for Westerners. A study by the University of Groningen in the Netherlands found that Americans only need four seconds of silence in a conversation to feel more upset, rejected or insecure. Contrast this with another study, which found that Japanese people are happy to sit still with others for 8.2 seconds. Considering the Japanese proverb "The silent person is the best" and the Japanese concept of haragei (literally "abdominal sensitivity"), their tolerance may not be surprising, indicating that the most effective way of communication is actually not talking.
By HAOHUA LI4 years ago in Humans
I choose me
I have never felt at any point in my life that I have ever done anything for myself. The other day I was feeling as if I was doing something wrong because I knew it was upsetting other people and I got caught up in this inner turmoil because I hate letting people down; until I realized I hate letting people down, but I constantly disappoint myself. I never take care of myself or what I want out of my own life. I would bend over backward for people and leave my own plans in the dust.
By Ash4 years ago in Humans
20 50 11
Twenty years ago, at the World Trade Center filming with our videographer about us. We were at the World Trade Center because it played a part in our courtship. We decided it should be one of the locations in our wedding video. During a break from filming, I went over to one of the towers and I touched it lovingly. After a moment I said
By WrittenWritRalf4 years ago in Humans
Are you Looking for the Best Ways to Navigate Life’s Ups and Downs
Are you looking for the best ways to navigate life’s ups and downs? Though we cannot predict certain things that happen in our lives; we can be better prepared to tackle something unexpected that could help if an emergency occurs.
By Lynne Black4 years ago in Humans
How the Cobweb Effect Can Transform Your Business
You made a plan when starting your business: sell, make money. But have you found your busy, entrepreneurial self constantly putting out fires? That’s the problem with linear thinking.
By LONGXUE ZHAO4 years ago in Humans
Texas is Encouraging People to Rat Out Women For Having Abortions
Even as Texas Republicans decry mask mandates as being a violation of bodily autonomy, they are poised to pass a law preventing women from getting abortions past six weeks. They are using the language forged by decades of feminist activists to defend policies that endanger the entire population. Meanwhile, they are casually stripping women of their rights. Bodily autonomy is for everyone except women, it seems.
By SHIPING CHEN4 years ago in Humans
Six Designs That White People Never Notice Are Racist
The thing with privilege is often you only notice it when you don’t have it. Right-handed people use scissors and think nothing of it, it never even crosses their mind that it could be an issue. Women are more likely than men to suffer severe injury in a car accident when wearing seatbelts because they were made for the male anatomy. When things are made for you, you don’t even notice it. You don’t even imagine that other people don’t have the same experience. If oppression is invisible to you, it is because you are on the side of the oppressor.
By SHIPING CHEN4 years ago in Humans
Growing Up
Of all the cliches about growing up, I’d have to say “it gets better” is one of the more accurate ones. That is not to say that things won’t ever go wrong, or that there is a specific timeline in which “things get better”. But in the most general and broad way, things do.
By kelly4 years ago in Humans
Early Bird Get's The Worm
No matter how much we try, it can be impossible to get out of bed sometimes. Why should I have to go to work when I can just sleep on my comfy bed with the amazing soft pillows that make me feel like I’m floating in heaven. What you may not know, waking up earlier than usual will cause your brain to make you more productive.
By Sean Peck4 years ago in Humans
Things We Do Forget On 9/11
Most people can remember where they were when the twin towers were hit. I walked the halls of my high school, moving from one class to the next. I heard the shuffles of feet and book bags around me, but something was different.
By Izzy Writes Everything4 years ago in Humans
The Narcissist Will Never Admit They Are Wrong
Narcissist: 2 + 2 = 5 Rational person: I’m sorry! That is incorrect! 2 +2 = 4 Narcissist: THAT’S WHAT I SAID!!!! Rational Person: No! You said it was 5.
By Frederick Emerson4 years ago in Humans
Life in The Big City.
I always thought that life in the big city would be this romantic, life-changing experience - one that I would look back to, and associate it with the best years of my life. What could ever be more liberating than hopping in your car at 5 A.M., before the sun has even risen, and driving West? Leaving everything you know behind - your family, your friends, your memories, the tiny little town you grew up in; because the city calls to you?
By Alex Barbu4 years ago in Humans