Second Love, How Long Will It Last Over Time?

It is said that the second love is the one that will stand the test of time, which is a truly strong and mature love. not resisting the hardships of life.

Many will live the second love, and the third love, even the fourth… until we find that love that will last and face the challenges until we find the right person. And every love can be real, deep, passionate - and each one is different, each one teaches us something. In any case, we live the second love with more maturity and more experience, which helps to build and maintain a harmonious relationship.

The second love is usually that of maturity - while the first love is generally that of adolescence when we are young, naive, dreamy, and inexperienced. Although idealists believe in one real love, the truth is that we can truly love more than once in a lifetime.

You never forget your first love, but you leave it in the past and you can live after a while another equally real love. There is no point in wondering, then, which of our loves were real or which are deeper! We can love twice in our lives, even more than once, and each time we love with sincerity and passion. Every love makes us richer and brings us happiness, each one is real as long as we feel it in our soul. And everyone teaches us something…

The second love, however, is indeed a stronger and more resilient one - in the sense that it is more likely to last over time and not be blown away. When we live our first love, everything is beautiful, exciting, passionate - unfortunately, we do not know at all that a relationship requires work, requires adaptation, and even compromise. As naive young people, we dream of perfection, and when imperfect reality strikes us, we cannot face it.

First love doesn't last very long - both young partners are far too naive, too idealistic. They sometimes give up the first great weight, because no one has taught them that a relationship is difficult, that love is not, however, everything… Life will teach them this hard lesson: to love does not guarantee happiness until old age together by the person you love. Loving does not guarantee that the relationship will not get stuck. It does not guarantee that you will be happy and that there will be no difficulties…

The second love is a more "rational" one! The necessary quotation marks were used because, no matter how experienced and mature we become, love presupposes emotions and not reason. You do not fall in love rationally, but instinctively, you are not attracted to a certain person because of his qualities - but sometimes, despite his flaws!

But once you have lived the first love, you learn to calm your dreams and you learn especially the fact that love does not make everything pink. You learn that a relationship also requires work. You learn to communicate better with your partner.

You learn not to make the same mistakes again. You learn not to think only of yourself and not just the other person - but to seek balance. You learn to accept the person with good and bad, without expecting him to do everything for you, without expecting him to be perfect…

The second love is better for you. In what sense? In the sense that after the first love and the first painful breakup, you know how to create expectations from a future relationship. You know what kind of partner is right for you and it's easier for you to figure out if a relationship has a future or not.

You learn what is realistic to ask of a partner and what is just a childhood. You learn to avoid (somewhat) people who can hurt you, who can break your heart (again). You learn to avoid the "bad guys" and appreciate a person for who they are.

The second love is often the one that will stand the test of time. The one that turns into a resilient and stable relationship, in which partners find what they need. Why would the second love be more resilient than the first?

Apart from the experience gained, from what you learned during the first "serious" dating relationship, to the second long couple relationship, you are more protected from temptations! In the sense that you have lived other lives, you have experienced with other people and you are not tempted to see what it would be like with someone else!

This is, in fact, a problem that occurs very often between partners who have not had relationships with others in the past: in the first stable couple relationship, after a while, you may think like someone else, you may be tempted by the novelty, you may regret not experiencing more… And you may end up wondering "will I not be with anyone else?"…

In the second relationship, however, the temptation is less (in general) - with someone else, you know what it's like to be with someone else and you know how to appreciate what you have now, without dreaming of anything else!

The second love is just as real! Finally, it is important to accept that a person can truly love more people throughout his life! Your partner loves you - but that doesn't mean he/she hasn't loved anyone else in his / her past. So it doesn't make sense to be jealous or sad because you're not his first love. You are not his first love, but you are his love today and that matters!