Relationship Advice

1. Dont go too fast

If you get in a relationship too fast it will crumble. For example my friend met her husband on a dating website. Three months later he was like I want to marry her. I got him to wait a year before he proposed to her. Its been about three years so far. They both have been struggling with one another because they didn't know who each other was until now. So please take your time and get to know someone before you get into a marriage thats tough to get out.

2.You're both in the relationship not just one of you.

What I mean by this is it is a two way. One person can't have all the weight of the relationship on their shoulders. Some people get in a relationship and give their everything. While the other person in the relationship isn't trying at all or as much. If you truly love someone you are going to give your all and if they truly love you they would do the same.

3. Don't get married before both of you are ready.

Do you truly know this person? Have you lived with them? How long have you known or lived with them? Are they the one? Are they just for fun? Am I happy? These are all questions you should be asking yourself before you say yes to the dress or pop the question.

How I knew was I asked these questions to myself. I have known my fiance since 2014 and lived with him since about 2016. In 2019 I was like hes the one I want to be with for the rest of my life. He loves me, cares for me, and we enjoy each other. I was going to propose to him with a ring pop. I thought it would be cute but I did get a little scared. I talked to my friend about it and she like yeah you should do it.

He beat me to it though. We went to visit his family down south. His brother, him, and his friend went out. They came back with a cake that said will you marry me?. His brothers girlfriend was beside me and his brother delivered the cake so I got so confused. I looked at his brothers girlfriend,then his brother, then I looked at him.He got down on one knee, put the ring on my finger, and asked me to marry him. I of course said yes, he was everything I wanted. We have been engaged since 2019 and planning to get married in a couple years down the road.

4. Listen to outside sources, that includes family, friends,ect.

Listening to outside sources about your relationship could be helpful in deciding are they the one? If you chose to block those outside sources you might be harming yourself. For example lets say your signfigant other made moves towards your friend. Your significant other was being really flirtatous while you were in the other room. Your friend tells you that your significant other tried to kiss them. You tell them "oh, they wouldnt do that". Or maybe they act super suspisous and your family memeber makes a comment " hey ____ seems a little suspisous. I saw them doing ____". While you may believe your significant other wouldnt do any of that to you it is good to hear from all sides because love can blind us all.

5.Inconclusion

You should take your time to get to know them. You should give it your all as well as your significant other should . Don't have a one sided relationship and if it is one sided they arent the one. Always listen to what others are saying about your relationship or take what they are saying in consideration.Question why they would be saying something like that. Make sure to ask yourself questions like Do I truly know this person? Am I happy? Are they the one? Have I lived with them or known them long?